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    Is metamour a narcissist?

    Thanks a lot for all the advice; it really helps. I need boundaries, this is certain but it's not an easy thing to build. The difficult thing is that my partner doesn't seem to understand that she takes me for granted: she never has the same care for as she has for her friends. At the same...
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    Is metamour a narcissist?

    This is a good question. I am currently working as much as I can on my codependency to give her a non-conditional freedom. I have already changed a bit since I started the work 8 weeks ago: - I no longer seek her attention or blame her (via message or calls) when she goes out with friends or...
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    Is metamour a narcissist?

    If only it was that easy :-). I love this country, and love what I have; In addition, my wife is also happu here and she finally found what she wants to do so it would be mean stopping her here.
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    Is metamour a narcissist?

    It means that I can stay in the country as long as I have a job. My wife can stay in the country as long as I have a job (unless she finds a job but it's almost impossible). If I break up with her, she might be kicked out of the country and it's not something that I want as I believe it's a bit...
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    Is metamour a narcissist?

    The situation is really complicated and it's driving me crazy: I live in Singapore where apartments are small and space limited; the opportunity we had with the friend offering the apartment will unfortunately not happen again. The problem is that the apartment is small and 2 people cannot live...
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    Is metamour a narcissist?

    Yeah, I fear that you are right and that at least currently, she is not a good person. It's just impossible for me to consider since I know that she is not always like that. She has been very good but things have apparently changed. I just don't know if I should keep on investing effort or not...
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    Is metamour a narcissist?

    I also believe it yes; and even if he is not I am afraid that he is not a good person. What scares me a lot is that despite these 3 very negative signals (in only 4 months), she is still running after him. If he wants to be with her, she is very likely to start the same cycle of destruction over...
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    Is metamour a narcissist?

    Sorry if it was unclear. It's the same guy yes (there has always been only one). You said she's mentally weak. What does that mean? When I say my wife is emntally weak it's that she has suffered from light depression for a a couple of years with a lack of motivation to do anything and also...
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    Is metamour a narcissist?

    Hi everyone, I have recently shared that my wife and I have just started being an open couple. She has been with a metamour for 4 months now and I have always had deep doubts regarding the real personality of this person. I would need your opinion based on the following facts: 1) When I...
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    Looking for help

    Excellent advise, thanks a lot. The fights are mostly due to me being jealous of her spending time with this other guy. There is improvement as we actually discuss about it less and less, and I also realize that I can handle my emotions better when she mentions him. So the time spent...
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    Looking for help

    Hello and thanks for your answer; There is a lof of true things in what you mentioned, especially regarding her answer to this toxic situation and her right to move toward something better for her. I accept it. I am working hard on myself currently, really trying everything I can to grow my own...
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    New one from Singapore

    Thanks for the message and it totally agree with the content. Instead of judgmental, I should have said maybe to prevent from judging too quickly a complex situation. This is very common on the Web. But I am not hear to just hear what I want, certainly not.
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    Looking for help

    Hi, I am not sure I understand what such therapy is? I am currently being followed by a therapist and an hypnotherapist to understand how I work and why. I did understand a massive amount of things!
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    Looking for help

    Hi everyone, I have just introduced myself under the corresponding section, so take a look at it to understand me better. As I mentioned there, I have been married to my wife for 15 years and we have been in a very codependent relation with me being manipulative, possessive and jealous. I...
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    New one from Singapore

    Hi everyone, I feel a bit lost so excuse me if my introduction is not the most understandable one. I am a married man that has been with his wife for 15 years. We have been in a very codependent relation for at least 5 years with me being totally fused to her (and consequently no identity)...
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