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Hello, it's me again, as usual only stopping by when there's something going wrong and I need to work my way through it. So, I told Flame shortly after we turned our friendship into a long-distance relationship that I wanted to know if he intended to start seeing anyone else. Which is pretty...

We had been doing a play by post over discord, but I hit a depression jag and I got overwhelmed and didn't post for a few days. I had plans to post that weekend, but then Irish messaged me to ask if we were taking a break. It felt very passive aggressive and then I felt obligated to, so I just...

It's definitely a difficult time. Here's hoping that they stay ok for the duration and recover 💜 I have to take medication for the rest of my life because bipolar disorder isn't something I want to leave untreated. I feel the same way about my asthma. But the experiments to find the right mental...

I'm totally losing my mind over here. My friend's wife died after being exposed to covid in the hospital while giving birth to their kid, so he's now bringing up a baby on his own. My step uncle has also died. We weren't super close, but I knew him through family holidays. It's mostly the...

I'm pretty bummed because Flame offered to drive out for the weekend (which he never does). I had to remind him that we're in lock down because of my asthma. My state has closed schools, restaurants, entertainment venues, and prohibited public gatherings of over 25. I'm glad that I already shop...

I'm in a high risk for severe illness category and there are confirmed cases in my county. I'm following my governor's community mitigation plan, which is for people at high risk to stay home as much as possible. The point of the plan is to prevent local hospitals from being overrun by severe...

Sending internet hugs. I'm sorry that his unpredictable and erratic behavior has really hurt you and your family. Adding more people is never going to help a struggling relationship. And it was beyond unconscionable to straight up lie to you like that. Even when you know that part of your body...

There are fairly regular meetups in Lansing, as a branch of the West Michigan Polyamory group, which had about 2k members when I left last year. While WMP is based in GR, it has regular meetups in Lansing, Kzoo, and I think Battle Creek a few times. Those meetups I went to in Lansing usually had...

Thanks for sharing! I'm really hesitant to ask people for intensely personal details like that, so it's super helpful to have them volunteered.

Oh, wow, it's been a while. I still lurk the forums but I haven't had a lot to post about since poly things really settled in. I'm still seeing Guitarist, Flame, and Reader. Guitarist is still seeing Spice and Honeybee. And Flame and Reader are both functionally monogamous with me, though Flame...

You deserve respect as another human being with needs and feelings. Not only are you not getting that respect, he makes any problem about you, belittles your responses, and shifts responsibility. Why are you still in this relationship? Because you love him? You ought to love YOU first. Would you...

I think you should, and sooner rather than later if you can handle it emotionally because there are things like statutes of limitation that will really punish you in malpractice cases in most states if you wait too long to file. Most attorneys have free consultations. You shouldn't have to pay...

It's definitely a Friday in my brain. Things are generally going well, which is probably part of why I've been posting so infrequently lately. I don't really need a processing blog when I don't have much to process I suppose! Me stuff. I've finally gotten over me bedroom anxiety to the point...

The trip to see Flame was kind of a shit show. I picked up a bug on the train out, so I was sick the entire vacation. I thought I was getting better just in time to go home. Then the day after I got back, on my home post-vacation rest day, I got slammed with illness so hard that I was...

It's been awhile again. Let's see. Teal ghosted on me after the third date, which really sucked because I thought things were going well. I'm texting another woman regularly but I think we're going to just be friends, and I got tea with a different person last week. Xe's coming over on Saturday...

I looked into the different feeder options and wasn't able to afford them. The inexpensive option of a spray bottle of water cut with malt vinegar has persuaded the younger cat to at least let the older eat at least half of it. He still picks at dry food but between the wet he gets and the water...

I haven't posted in forever. Updates! The new medications are working wonders in most ways, except they have made my period miserable. Well... kind of miserable. I was kind of taken by surprise this "month" (I've never been regular) since my period wasn't preceded by about a week of...

I'm hoping so. Good luck!

No real comments, other than that you should just keep doing what's right for you without regard for what other people might think about you getting married again. There's nothing wrong with marrying in a polymorous relationship. There's nothing wrong with just being married to Harry and...

I'm sorry you're struggling through this right now. I often feel guilty when explaining why a behavior hurt me, and I think that's normal. I'm pretty confident that anxiety brain is wrong when it's telling you that you ruined everything. I hope you get back to your "boring" (I would say...