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    How do I tell my husband?

    Bananafish, I wish I had an answer for you, but I don't. Looks like you are at a crossroad in your life and I wish you the best. Keep in mind, many others have been in your position. Me included. I was lucky. I introduced the idea to my wife. She was taken by surprised by it and refused it...
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    Article: Why Do We Think Polyamory Is Only for the Rich, White and Privileged?

    It sounds like someone is over thinking this. To me and my wife, polyamory is simply a sex life that three, or more, people have chosen as their preferred arrangement. I have known many poly trios. None of them were high on the SES scale. Most of them were a white/black mix. Although my...
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    Am I a Cuckold?

    Galagirl makes a good point. Don't dwell on your past. Shead it and start with a new slate. And, read the last statement above. Don't be ashamed of who you are. It's more common than you think.
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    Am I a Cuckold?

    That's the original definition. The "Urban Dictionary" definition is more accurate now.
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    Am I a Cuckold?

    The cheating part, I agree with. As far as cuckoldry, it's up to the administrators on this site. I think there is room for people like johncason. Cuckoldry is different, but very related to polyamory. In some cases, it's a prerequisite for polyamory. Johncason, I've heard many stories like...
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    Are my bi male fantasies problematic?

    I don't think your interests are all that unusual. However, my wife and I have had a very non-traditional marriage for over 30 years, lol. We have been to many swingers clubs, sex parties, etc. and have met many couples and trio's like you seek. We can't help what turns us on, and as long as...
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    keeping my married girlfriend a secret from my family

    If you come out, you will be ridiculed by some, but it will be accepted by others. That is what happened to us. If you think about it, it's very similar to a homosexual coming out of the closet to his family. You sound happy with your lifestyle and it involves all consenting adults. That's...
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    Polyam advices

    I agree with Evie, as well. I read your post, but found myself having to reread it, lol. She's making the relationship sound like a complicated contract. My wife and I have been open our entire marriage. Over 30 years. Three of her bf's (over the years) ended up in a live-in (poly)...
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    How to be a Non-Monogamous mother in a Binary World

    Hello m.ellery. I look forward to finding your book in publication. And, I definitely hope it goes a long way to normalizing polyamory. In my opinion, polyamory is simply another alternate lifestyle that involves consenting adults. My wife and I were "open" for the most part, and hid it from...
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    Anyone read the novel Luster?

    Try "Forbidden Pleasure" by Lora Leigh. My wife recommended I read it and I loved it. I would have preferred a little more erotica, but it's still a good read.
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    Opening long term marriage to poly - blog

    Thanks Nonentity. I don't have an ongoing blog. Maybe I will eventually. I still consider this new path to be in the experimental stage for my wife and I. So far, it has been a very positive change for us. I can tell she loves her freedom to play and she and I laugh, joke and talk about...
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    Coworkers knowing about poly status

    My wife and I are slowly coming out of the closet with our new lifestyle. You may lose some friends, but you may make new ones as well. As long as what you guys are doing involves consenting adults and nobody is getting hurt or deceived, it shouldn't matter to anyone else.
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    Opening long term marriage to poly - blog

    It took about 10 years for my wife to agree to open our marriage. She and I each have a different kink, but they match up very, very well. My wife's kink is that she is undeniably, a nymphomaniac. I realized that when we started dating in high school. We are now in our 50's, and even after...
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    My wife suggested I read "Forbidden Pleasure" by Lora Leigh. I absolutely loved it, as did my wife. Lora Leigh writes a lot of erotica, but this one was amazing. The way she described the husband in this book was so close to my own beliefs and desires I was starting to wonder if she...
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    colorado couple trying something new

    Hi CinandJes. My wife and I are pursuing something new as well. She and I have been together for over 30 yrs and she has finally come out of the closet about her deepest, darkest desires. I confessed to wanting to share her with another man, many years ago. She joked about it for years, but...