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    Hi there! Any input/insight on just how screwed up my situation has become? Thanks.

    Hi there! Any input/insight on just how screwed up my situation has become? Thanks.
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    Is it possible to over-communicate?

    I don't think it's possible to "overcommunicate", but I do think it's possible to communicate too much at any given time. Sometimes a person can only handle so much information to be processed, and the processing can take some time. Once they've reached the maximum amount of info they can...
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    Apologies

    I'm a fairly confrontational person in cases like this, so if it were me, I'd probably bring it up and start a conversation about what you're seeing/hearing/feeling when it comes to their behaviour toward each other. Get it all out in the open. If things go from bad to worse, walk away for a...
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    Mono wiring vs. poly wiring

    I think he's feeling attacked for some opinions he stated that you aren't attacking, and not looking *specifically* at the particular statement/opinion that you are being critical of as a non-sequiter. HMMMMM...after re-reading the first thread, where this started, I think I see where the 1st...
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    Mono wiring vs. poly wiring

    I wish Mono wouldn't leave over this. I really *think* he's seeing personal, ad hominem attacks where there aren't any. I *think* we've got a bit of a communications disconnect in that the specific statements that are being *ripped* for being logical fallacies are statements that Mono made...
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    Mono wiring vs. poly wiring

    I know I'm new here, but I'm gonna chime in on this one. From a strict *logical* standpoint, Joreth and Ceoli are right in calling a spade a spade or, in this case, a non-sequitor a non-sequitor. (Joreth, you ROCK!). Weaselbob
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    Where Does It END?

    Umm, I didn't know there was anything that said you had to "love equally". That whole concept sounds broken to me. I just fell in love with a new interest, and now am, for the first time in my life, romantically involved with two wonderful women. I've been married to one for 21+ years and...
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    Hello

    My 16 year old son is oblivious and my 17 year old daughter already suspects. Of course we've always been fairly open about sexuality around our kids in terms of answering their questions and letting them engage us in a dialogue (regardless of how uncomfortable it might have been). I was...
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    Role Playing Games

    Avidly GM'd a BUNCH of D&D back in the day. I miss 2nd edition :( . I then found myself hooked on Rolemaster/MERP quickly, so started running it a lot. The only online I took the time to play, and get quickly addicted to, used the old Rolemaster combat engine and the Shadow World setting, and...
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    D/s and poly

    My wife brought this up to me last week, and we've discussed this in some detail. Our relationship, our marriage, is special, but the D/s is even more special to her and it is not something she wants shared. Me domming anyone else is more than she's willing to put up with, and that works out...
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    New, with new feelings... HELP

    Thank you for the clarification. :) Yeah, I can see how it would make it seem like I had cheapened the whole thing with that flippant remark. Being flippant and sarcastic are a couple of defense mechanisms I've honed to razor-sharp lethality and I use them when I shouldn't sometimes. And...
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    New, with new feelings... HELP

    Redpepper, I agree with everything you said in your first paragraph 100%. While I would probably like to think Trevor's an asshole, I really can't. I like the guy, and as I've told him before, I understand jealousy, been there done that, and likely to be there again, to some degree. I am NOT...
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    New, with new feelings... HELP

    Last update... Well, the more time we spend dealing with this, the more convinced I am that to some degree I'm a catalyst that has brought to light some long-term issues in their marriage. So I'm minimizing the active drama in my life and putting the ball in both of their courts, cutting and...
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    New, with new feelings... HELP

    News... if you care to hear. Trevor is feeling like crap for what happened. He wants us all to remain friends. He *says* he's okay with Amber and me still throwing darts on Friday nights. She told him that was non-negotiable. He's falling all over himself apologizing now. He's saying some...
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    New, with new feelings... HELP

    Sheesh, where to start? Trevor took his pleasure with my lovely wife Jolene, then said he felt like he cheated on Amber, and stopped everything from going any further. To make light of the situation, I was the only one who didn't get laid. On a more serious note, he has basically said it's...
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    New, with new feelings... HELP

    'Nuff Said... Disaster
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    New, with new feelings... HELP

    Something I just realized, being new to this and everything. I'm wondering what I've gone and done. I've just given a second person the ability to rip my heart out. What the hell was I thinking? How do you willingly put yourself into a position that gives that kind of power to multiple people?
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    New, with new feelings... HELP

    First disaster averted We all got together to define some terms and discuss how they applied to each other involved at this point. Thank you, Wikipedia, for the entry on love, where the concept is broken down into manageable bite-sized pieces. We've determined that there's a LOT of "storge" to...
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    New, with new feelings... HELP

    Thank you! By the way, this is so new to me. I'm feeling real weird. The new feelings are intense, almost "high-schoolish," in their intensity, since we both verbalized that we loved each other, even though we both agree that "maybe" things would have been easier if kept at a distance and...
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    New, with new feelings... HELP

    My wife Jolene has always been interested in a group-marriage arrangement, always telling me that loving more than one person was not just do-able, but easy and understandable. Great from an intellectual standpoint, but from a practical one, I'll concede it's possible, but not for me. I'm too...
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