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  1. Narapela

    South Africans?

    Care to explain, Trusty?
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    Welcome. Hope you find this group as informative as I have (still am). Lots to learn here. Prepare to challenge yourself in the best possible way.
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    A point to sex without orgasm?

    Dear TeJoKo, I understand absolutely your feelings and frustrations. The fact is that only arround a third of women can reach orgasm through penetration alone with no 'exterior' (vulva) stimulation whatsoever. Less than 20% can rely on vaginal penetration alone to reach orgasm every time...
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    pic's : sun sets- waterfalls- rainbow's

    Hello all! I am not a photographer. I just click on automatic mode. These are some of the images that I clicked and still enjoy looking at, mostly because of the thoughts and feelings I had when I clicked them. 1. Yes, I live in Africa and this is a real, live and wild lion in a nature reserve...
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    New from Western Canada

    Welcome to the forum! I believe that this an honest environment that supports self-exploration and offers much information on relationship dynamics. I hope that your exploration is a self-affirming adventure. (How I wish to have had this kind of resource when I was your age.) I wish you a great...
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    Welcome to the forum, mj. I hope you remain actively involved in learning all you can from this forum. It is not always an easy journey, but like the best rides it remains memorable and has the potential of empowering oneself through honest self-confrontation and liberating self-expansion. Be...
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    New in New England

    Hello Myotis, and welcome to this friendly web environment. As I read your introduction, I had the same question as eklctc. Have you spoken with your husband about polyamory and supported him in honestly and freely exploring the concept? If he is mono-wired, it may be quite hard for him to 'get...
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    My favorite strange thing to do

    I absolutely 'get' this, I think that using pen and paper perhaps feels like a more organic, honest extension of oneself. I was privileged to be accepted into a post-graduate writing course many years ago. Given the facts that all writings had to be submitted in type-print format and that...
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    Quotes...plagarism encouraged!!

    This has for a long time been one of my favourite quotes. I first read it when I really needed much courage to 'let go', to surrender to the laws of (my) nature. At the time I also received this from my love, and it still moves me whenever I read it (often): "Yes, it is hard when drops fall...
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    Londoner New to Poly

    Good luck to both of you on your journey. May it be an enlightening one that brings you closer together.
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    Londoner New to Poly

    What a well-worded introduction. There are as many flavours of polyamory as there are people practising it, and the people practising polyamory are of all and any sexual orientations and persuasions. I am also learning (unfortunately the hard way), and this forum is packed with information and...
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    Greetings from South Africa!

    Thank you for the encouragement, jas. It is appreciated.
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    Why do you use the online name that you use?

    Having read most of the posts in this thread, I realise that I have not given an enormous amount of thought to my online name. I simply like it and feel an affinity for it. In June/July of 2009 I was unemployed and frustrated. I spent a lot of time randomly surfing the internet, not looking for...
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    Greetings from South Africa!

    Thank you for the welcome, eklctc! I realise that my post is very long-winded, but I guess I am still a bit too overwhelmed by my current situation to be able to differentiate between what is essential and what is not, and consequently I struggle to edit away the superfluous. Be well.
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    Fun quiz

    # First thing you wash in the shower? Hair # What color is your favorite hoodie? I do not own a hoodie # Would you kiss the last person you kissed again? She won't let me - she broke up with me 4 weeks ago. :( # How are you feeling RIGHT now? Emotionally drained, uncertain, but in control and...
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    Word Association Game!

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    South Africans?

    Count me in.
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    Is masturbation sex?

    I am female and believe that masturbation is sex. If sex is love-making, then masturbation is self-loving. Masturbation as part of cyber-sex or telephone sex - definitely sex (with a partner, intimately, mutually pleasing and in tune with each other's needs).
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    Greetings from South Africa!

    PS. I am aware of having to move at the pace of the slowest person in the relationship. Unfortunately H, despite reading about and researching polyamory, with my support and guidance, and answering all her questions honestly, reached a point just over a month ago, where she refused any more...
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    Greetings from South Africa!

    Hello everybody, This is a long, long babble that serves both as an introduction and a meandering statement of the situation I currently find myself in. I am a 39-year-old pansexual woman living in a small coastal village in the Western Cape province of South Africa, and I work in the...