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    monogamish-me, polyamorous-him

    I haven't been here for some time. I was healing from a very bad relationship, then I explored a strictly monogamous relationship for a good 8 months until she dumped me for another woman :rolleyes: Lately, I've felt more monogam-ish or polyflexible rather than polyamorous. I also think, after...
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    sorry, I only want your wife

    A man contacted me on OKC. He seemed interesting. He said he and his wife "often date together." She was too young to show up in my matches, so I never read her profile, but did see a pic of her in his profile. I told him I thought his wife was very pretty. First thing I did was ask him what...
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    Coping with the lows caused by N.R.E.

    N.R.E is not always puppies and rainbows, especially for those of us who tend to love "too much." The come down from those love chemicals can make one feel insecure, over-sensitive to imagined slights from our lover, distracted at work, etc.. Right now, N.R.E. for my boyfriend of 5+ months is...
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    FL Keys?

    I've been on this site a couple of years. I was poly throughout my twenties (though we didn't have a name for it back in the early 90's.) Then I tried a monogamous marriage for over a decade, then an open one which made me happy, but not so much for hubby. My current marital status is separated...
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    Bisexual Callie on Grey's Anatomy

    Anybody else watch the show? I'm thinking about the character, Callie, who supposedly identifies as a bisexual woman. The only other bisexual characters I think of on mainstream television are Brittany and Sontana on Glee. Callie started off on the show having relationships with men (George and...
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    Letting Husband Go

    My husband, Arlo, and I separated five months ago. We took off our wedding rings, and he got a room downtown. My reclaiming of my poly/bi self after over a decade of monogamy was one big reason, but not the only reason. Arlo wants, ultimately, a monogamous wife, and I know this. I also don't...
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    People who talk about How Much Things Cost

    Last night I had one of the worst "dates" with a person I "met" online EVER. We met at a restaurant bar. She was an extremely well-heeled woman. I learned she and her husband have a house in New England and just bought a second home in the Keys. After a while, I began to notice her conversation...
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    non latex condoms?

    I just bought some SKYN Non Latex Polyisoprene Condoms. I've never used nonlatex before, and I'm wondering if anyone's experienced these or has good recommendations for condoms good for very sensitive lady-parts. I'm sensitive to EVERYTHING I can't do spermicides, have a latex allergy, and any...
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    Dating during trial separation? Good idea or terrible

    For anyone just tuning in: I'm a bisexual female who was in open/multiple relationships throughout my twenties, but in my thirties settled into monogamy with my husband, "Arlo," and stayed monogamous over a decade. Two years ago, I asked to open the marriage so I could be with a woman I'd fallen...
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    keeping loves seperate

    I'd like to know if anyone here maintains multiple relationships which are lived out entirely separate from one another--I mean, your lovers do not interact at all for whatever reason. I'd also like to hear from those of you who don't have an even casual relationship with your "metamour." How...
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    Captain's Log

    I'm LoveBunny, early 40's, very bisexual, married to a monogamous man. My first officially open relationship was in my early twenties when I lived in Manhattan. I was dating Jimmy when we both met Sonya through a mutual girlfriend, who I was also sleeping with. I fell in love with Sonya, Sonya...
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    Swingers?

    What has been people's experiences within the "swingers'" community? Are they really all about casual sex/n.s.a, or do they just as often make the full leap to polyamory and form real relationships? I ask because where I live has no polyamorous groups or get-togethers, but a thriving...
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    Threesome Questionairre

    Hey everyone, I'm writing a piece about threesomes, and would love to hear from some of you regarding your experiences. If you'd like to help, please take a minute to fill out this questionnaire. It's just 10 questions, mostly multiple choice. I really do want to hear from people with a range...
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    Love Addiction

    I'm currently sorting out some behaviors that point toward "love addiction," namely fear of setting boundaries with my lovers, falling obsessively in love with emotionally unavailable people, and feeling personally rejected when my partner isn't in the mood for sex. One of the stumbling blocks...
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    How to Seduce a Couple

    So there's this lesbian couple I'm friendly with. I've known one of the women for several years, and always had a crush, but I couldn't act on it as I was practicing monogamy with my husband. She and I flirted sometimes, but I kind of avoided her even as a friend knowing I couldn't follow...
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    How/Where to “Manifest” My Lover

    I’m a 41 yr old bi woman, with my husband 15 years, no kids by choice. As documented in previous posts, I have always accepted that I am poly-wired, but I managed (at least, technically) monogamy with hubby until last summer, when I fell hard for another woman. My husband and I struggled with...
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    Allowed to date women, would like to date men too

    I am a 40yr old bisexual woman, poly throughout my twenties, but got married and managed to stay monogamous nearly 15 years. This summer, I had a midlife crisis culminating in a 5-month long love affair with a woman, nearly decimating my marriage. After a very difficult few months, my husband...
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    Letting Go of Attachment and Expectation

    Though I had full-blown poly relationships when I was in my twenties, after 15 years of monogamy with my husband, this summer I fell hardcore for a woman. She admitted she had problems being emotionally vulnerable and wasn’t “good at relationships.” In return, I confessed that I was no good at...
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    Florida Keys Bi F Seeking Female Energy

    I'm a youthful 40, married, no kiddos, and after long negotiations and a near separation, my hubcap has finally understood and accepted my need to be with women too. I am currently in a three-month-long relationship with a poly female lover, but she is just a touch too casual towards me and I'm...
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    Am I missing the Poly Personality?

    So I was involved in many open relationships with men, women, and couples in my twenties which fell apart, mostly because I always got too attached and couldn't handle it, or I felt not attached enough and I got bored. Now, at age 40, after 14 years of monogamy with my husband, I find myself...
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