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it is definitely a lot to take in. My only other advise is to communicate, communicate, communicate, and when all else fails, communicate. I wish you both peace and good luck in your journey.

Agreed on all counts :)

Either that or quite possibly he's more comfortable with Theorycrafting™, rather than actually doing. In essence, more comfortable with the philosophical discussions of poly, rather than the actual practice of it.

Not in a 'cule yet, but Discord would also be another option. I like it because it doesn't take up too many resources on either the computer or the phone. It was developed for gamers on account of that.

There are obvious reasons for this. Your wholesale and unqualified contempt for the male of our species being the primary example. I know you do this because your husband is no longer around for you to slag on, however, this behavior is really quite unseemly for a person of your age. And yet...

Thank you!

I'm sorry...say what now?! Tracked by whom and for what purpose? Because otherwise, this sounds like the BF is being a paranoid nudnick.

I am going to roasted alive for pointing out the elephant in the room, however, this is probably because the finances were all geared toward her trips to the UK for 3-6 weeks at a clip. This is the crux of the matter, imo. Your wife is not being a very good hinge and the "you're just being...

Wishful thinking on Tom's part, mayhap? ;)

Respectfully, I disagree. The exact same premise of women getting to choose how many relationships they want and how so is the exact. same. premise that men get to have, whether you like that fact or not. Your adamant insistence on soapboxing that poly is some sort of "divine feminine...

Late to the party, but here is my two brass farthings. :) I am out to very, very, very few people. Not on account of I feel ashamed or anything like that, it's just that I do not think it's any of anyone's business. The few that do know are already poly or in some sort of ENM situation. I am...

Thank you for this. I have bookmarked it for later when I am in the correct head space for it. :)

I am unsure if I am answering your question correctly, however, if I am missing something, please feel free to let me know. Occasionally, I miss the mark and while it is an answer to A question, it's just not the answer to THE question the other person has asked. :) I am what as known as "poly...

I wholeheartedly agree with this assessment. I have been researching, discussing, and talking about poly for the last 3 years with my husband and if nothing else, the refrain of "open when everything is good, not when things are bad to "fix" the marriage" has been sung over and over again...

And tbh, it does not sound like he can't even be arsed to do so. His actions, IMO, have told @Momeo in NO uncertain terms what he thinks of her AND their relationship. IMO, OP just needs to dtmfa. Ripping the band-aid off now will save her untold amounts of grief. And I speak as someone who has...

All of this times 1000.

Mind you, I am currently in the throes of a wicked bad sinus infection, however, my inner cynic is saying that you were correct in that it's now just a honey trap. I don't think that is a bug, so much as a feature now. Pay the 50 quid for the upgrade or you get big fat donut hole of a zero. ;)

I completely agree with you. And my apologies if my post read as assigning blame. You are correct in that this is a situation where 2 people are just not compatible with one another, end scene as it were. However, in my defense, some of the posts came across as the gf not having any agency...

This is sound reasoning, and I have no quibble with this statement. Also no quibble with this assessment. I am in complete agreement with you there. However, with all due respect (and I really do mean that), this is where you lose me. Hanging out with people in porn is not necessarily...

To be fair to @Cdb931, he may not have known that he was not comfortable in that situation until he actually got in it (please pardon the inadvertent pun). Some folks need baby steps, while others can just BASE jump on the first go around. OP sounds more like the latter, rather than the former...