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I appreciate your comment Token and Evie, but as this is a long-distance relationship that physical touch and being together saying nothing is important for establishing comfort and trust and reaffirming around it. Not to mention the physical benefits to being physical as well. This is not a...

Sex is a portion, and COVID does indeed make it lonely. However, I believe that being around someone physically is important to maintain a healthy relationship. Even not sexually, being around others is important. I have had physical contact with other dates, but while it helps a bit it does...

Hopefully this next week I will find out when we can visit in the next month, which is after another date of hers. I dug more after last night, when she had a random drink invite from a swinger she went on. Part of the discomfort is an increase in the random dates and with the holiday busy-ness...

Thank you everyone. Time apart is my major issue now, and the source of the jealousy. Our time is planned to be longer because we spend days together, and it is great. Our calendar simply doesn't align for that now so I get really envious I can't see her in person like others can...

Hey everyone, I hope everyone is okay. Thanks to all of you, I am still working on my jealousy. What used to be a 9 or a 10 has come down to 4 or 5s, and I have begun developing routines and practices to get better, and a fairly set schedule to see my partner kept me sane. What I found now is...

This is interesting, and while it was a reply to icesong, I struggle. I am extremely special to her and I know the sexual acts, travel, etc are things that otherwise she only does with her husband. We have swapped the most intimate details of our life, and I know the other people she has met...

My friend and I did date - we are much, much, much better as friends. She is significantly older than me, but the lifestyle differences and her previous marriage leaves her not wanting anything I desire. I think the relationship is working a good amount of the time,and though it trips me up...

Hey everyone, Let me catch up here and sorry for quoting in one post. Wednesday night she invited me down to see her and meet her H. Him and I really clicked, and though there was a minor bump that was my fault (I got caught up with chatting the neighboring table at a bar we were at and kinda...

That is a problem I am facing, I am missing her and my physical needs being met over distance. Now that we are closer she wants it in person but can't, hence the going out. I can't fulfill that because it takes overnight logistics for me to travel and see her. It is nice she wants it that badly...

No I agree, but I do believe drunk minds speak sober hearts. And yes, I am just trying to gently nudge me back to how I felt when I get all wrapped up. But retraining a mind takes a long time as you know.

Well it has yet to be seen as I woke up pretty frustrated right now. I phoned a friend who is quite upset at my gf, butis aware of my dating situation. She is upset that my gf love-bombed me when I told my friend how I told my gf I felt our boundaries and timeline was cast aside, and I do...

Hey everyone, I hope all is well, and thank you for the help everyone has. It is a bit of a rough time for me, personally and my gf and her husband reunited so it is a time of shifting resources. My gf met up with a ONS for a second time and as it was on the cusp of my boundary comfort, I am up...

I think your response Icesong is why I enjoy it here so much, we disagree on many things but your compassion and reasoning for yourself is valid and respected. I was a bit confused (I took a sleeping pill) by the A/B/C thing. If that was in reference to my reddit example her, her husband, an I...

I left reddit's community in disgust when I said that I was trying to find advice on feeling unfulfilled during the time of COVID and I was overtaxing my GF with her family and my needs. It is pretty much like that website above, strict RA or you're "controlling." I answered some questions they...

This is perpetuated by many monogamous guys who come to "hunt" too. They say anything to get in bed and leave behind a wreck so someone who is poly now has to deal with past trauma on top of normal courtship of someone else who is open and was lied too. It is part of that poly=easy sex...

Oh I meant in tongue-in-cheek as I was chatting constantly! You helped me through so much and I am ever appreciative!

When I started calling my gf instead of text fighting, our relationship went from slowly losing altitude to at minimum keeping level, if not repairing itself right in the moment sugarglider. Tone is lost over text, and hearing your SO cry, breathe, etc brings the human back into the...

One of the very few boundaries with my GF is that her and her husband reserved certain language for themselves. To understand, this was in place since they opened their relationship up as "swinger" style and me, the longterm BF was never planned. He is a little bit worried - but we are making...

Hey there, I am going to say some stuff and I will probably get some disagreement. I am worried as I have a date with a very attractive woman coming up and my gf (married) has said this quite often. However when I was supposed to play third party for sexual fun for a couple the other day my gf...

Hey E! So I don't mind hierarchy per se, I am in a bit of one now though it was not supposed to be. So here are some tips/things I wish I did differently. I am in a secondary role, my gf is married. I will be eventually looking for a primary. First, read the "Secondary bill of rights." I...