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  1. veganchick

    Reflections of a Liar

    I understand how some of the things Podunk and I have posted may not accurately explain the situation. There is so much lost in online translation. That is one of the reasons I initially skipped posting. But, I allowed my desperation to get to me and decided to start my own thread. This was...
  2. veganchick

    Reflections of a Liar

    I have had self-image issues for years - weight fluctuations, young parenthood, early development/awkwardness. This was all before Podunk so I surely can't blame him for any of that. It has always been nice to be with someone who could share appreciation of different body types. I've expressed...
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    Reflections of a Liar

    Podunk has been very supportive of me over the years. Shortly after we met, I experienced a traumatic life event and he was there to pick up the pieces. He gave me them back to me and allowed me to assemble the puzzle as I'd like. In many ways, I have grown up with him - we met when I was 24...
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    Reflections of a Liar

    You are right. I just spent 15 minutes typing a response only to realize that while apologizing it still might appear as a justification. So, I deleted it. I will probably choose to speak less as a result, as well. It is a HUGE relief to me to know that there is even a tiny bit of hope that...
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    Lies, lies and more lies.

    I do intend to answer some comments more thoroughly but, at the suggestion of others, plan to give this topic and online discussion a little rest for a couple days. Thank you to everyone for actually taking the time to read all of our words and giving such honest and heartfelt responses! I'm...
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    Reflections of a Liar

    This was initially suggested to me as a starting point for proving my remorse and beginning the process of restoring trust. I hoped that by showing him that I was willing to recount the same details with others who were familiar with my stay ( Paul, his wife, Paul's lover - Meghan, Bob and...
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    Reflections of a Liar

    One of the things I've worried about by starting this thread is that it will appear as if I am trying to play the "woe is me" card or that I am trying to make Podunk seem less of a victim. I truly hope that is not what you gather from reading this. I'm starting to learn that often my words do...
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    Reflections of a Liar

    The situation is not helped by the fact that I have been sleeping very little, have no appetite, and now constantly shake. I understand his lack of trust in me and have agreed to to cut off communication with those at the commune and was eager to accept that I not visit that community again. I...
  9. veganchick

    Reflections of a Liar

    The conversation Bob and I shared did not revolve only around sexuality – we discussed many things and I truly enjoyed his conversation. I considered asking if he'd like to share a bed (in a nonsexual but close and intimate human way) but backed out. I had started my cycle and felt...
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    Reflections of a Liar

    The day I arrived, Paul and I hung out in my guest room chatting for an hour and then things got heavier. I didn't have this passionate intensity that I'd hoped I'd feel but I told myself that perhaps that would come over time. We made out heavily and slowly got naked. He was somewhat excited...
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    Reflections of a Liar

    Following the conference, podunk and I spent several more days hiking/traveling. I was still thinking of how amazing it was to meet like-minded people and about this potential new relationship. During a hiking break one day, he and I spoke briefly about thoughts on sharing sexual details with...
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    Reflections of a Liar

    Many of you have read my husband, Podunk's, thread. I didn't want to hijack his posts/advice with my story. But, as I start to feel at a loss for how to rebuild our relationship, I decided it was possibly time for me to put my thoughts out there as well and ask for feedback and guidance. I...
  13. veganchick

    Lies, lies and more lies.

    I have read this thread and I truly appreciate all of the feedback - including those who have told him to move on even if it's surely not what I want to read. It was important for me to give him his space to openly vent and communicate. I have not been avoiding the topic by any means- we have...
  14. veganchick

    Couples seeking couples versus individuals

    I agree! I appreciate all of the perspectives here!
  15. veganchick

    Facebook

    That is definitely a very understandable perspective. I suspect that many on here feel the same way. Being that I don't, at the moment, have anyone to protect, I'm all out there. :p Relationships are private and no one has a need to know beyond what you choose to share. I don't think sharing...
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    Facebook

    No one to add at the moment but I'll keep it in mind for the future...Thanks!!
  17. veganchick

    Couples seeking couples versus individuals

    I agree that the couple/couple can help to alleviate some jealousy issues. It's also nice when you have limited private time/children. Instead of taking turns with the family responsibilities and sharing your personal time between multiple partners, you can enjoy that time as a group.
  18. veganchick

    Facebook

    :D
  19. veganchick

    Facebook

    We found the same thing when we tried to add married AND open relationship. Agreed- it is stupid!
  20. veganchick

    Facebook

    I wish I had a facebook friend with that relationship status!! :o
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