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I'm a total neophyte and can't probably offer much, but 3) type thoughts and plans helped me a lot when my husband asked for us to be polyamorous for freaking ever ago. (Don't let it take you as long as it took me though to process things lol jk). I thought about 3) ideas a lot and found that...

Update, reviving this thread. Thanks for your replies and thoughts, everyone. I was so confused before. One more try at talking this out, and it turned out WAY clearer than i'd anticipated! My husband and I had a LONG talk today and I found out: 1) He's thought we were polyamorous our...

This is a beautiful point and I so appreciate your thoughts...... but I don't think my darling believes that it can/should be dealt with as a couple because he sees it (insecurity/feeling ugly) as "my" issue. This is part of how the intro to poly went for me, it was never a couple discussion of...

And it's that type of intellectual laziness that causes a lot of emotional problems for me in the past. A slacker style of not thinking things quite through so that it seems as though you've thought about it a good bit and can convince yourself you've thought it through. I get thoughts to a...

Hey all thanks for your replies. It's all a big journey and i hate to try to guess the ending (except we all die, lol spoiler alert) I promise I am thinking about what everyone's said... I tend to be dishonest with myself more than anything else... a HUGE flaw when trying to be polyamorous. I...

I thought the whole "vaginal orgasm" thing was a Freud nitpick to make chicks feel bad about themselves (no offense intended, sigmund). I can't recall an orgasm I've had without mucho, mucho clit banging involved. I always think of my clit as a tiny, tiny penis, you know the occasional guy...

I'm not mono, but I think I'm now stuck with monogamy because of the way I reacted to my husband's request to open our relationship almost a year ago. I said "yes", but cried for weeks on end. (I think he thinks I'm mono but won't admit it, not true. The girl he picked was a fuck'n goddess...

What Imaginaryillusion said. Yuck. Some memories refuse to die.

Hi there, I'm still too chickin to actually TRY polyamory although my husband and I have agreed to it and discussed it at length. No one's tried to actually enact anything yet, though. We have a unique situation in that we had a child together but had broken up beforehand. After she was born...

Hi everyone, I appreciate your replies. I'm driving my poor husband nuts with my ruminations but we did have some discussions and although he thinks it would be nice to have others sexually, if it causes any trouble he just doesn't want to go there. And, he reinforced why he loves me and why...

Hi, I am married to someone who requested that we open our relationship about 7 months ago. I agreed, but apparently cried so much that he just couldn't go ahead with anything. Now, I'm really regretting it and keep wondering if he's happy... after he changed his mind on the whole thing he...

Watching this thread... I'm feeling like total crap because of many of the same types of thoughts, and my husband has not even done anything yet with a new partner. The person he saw who made him want to be polyamourous is 16 years younger than me and so beautiful, like a movie star. I on the...

Unbelievable, that's where I'm currently living! Hope I get there someday too. =^..^=

Faery's first paragraph was directly quoted from the linked article, in case that was the part that confused anybody.

It's awesome that you guys communicated, thanks for posting, and I bet most people think you are super cute!!! :o

sweet!

Yup, I have been up and down. We're still not really talking and it's all so confusing. I have to go to my second job tonight, third shift. Hopefully I will not be crying by then! Ugh... We will be all right, but I don't think I can really get upset for a while, at least not around my husband...

Let me just mention that I am hurting really badly, lots of emotional pain, so hopefully this post is somewhat coherent. If you haven't read any of my other posts, here is a little background: maybe a month ago, my husband saw a co-worker of mine and immediately asked for us to have an open...

I am posting again with new understandings. Thanks for your insightful replies, everyone. I know that I am the only one that can change the way I feel about my looks. Even the cutest Suicide Girl has a chance of having low self esteem. Also, I know that confidence (of which I usually have a...

You guys are so awesome!! Thanks for the fresh perspectives, on youth, looks, thinking, everything. God, it's so refreshing to be able to just DISCUSS this stuff!! Does everyone else in our society just sweep everything under the rug, as a matter of course? I must say, it seems, polyamory (for...