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I'll consider this, might be a good place for me to process some things along the way too. Thank you.

I really appreciate this and am taking it seriously. I have backed off responding here because I was feeling like I was digging a hole into more misunderstanding. I greatly appreciate bluntness as you touch on, partially because I envy people able to do it regardless. I'm a great leader at work...

That was a factual statement, not an important statement. After this last escalation, that is technically what happened, so I said it. But I know it wasn't for a masturbation marathon. She could've known the ones in it were dead. I said it because it happened that day, not because it happens...

While I agree, these are hardly our worst moments. I think that's part of the problem here. I thought I was saying kinda middle of the road stuff, just factual everyday things for us. I'm just explaining things honestly, but I've stayed away from everything I think we'd consider personal...

See, and here, again, she's made huge steps in the past that lead me to believe she's not. She's taking accountability for things. She has changed in many positive ways over the years. Honestly, we still have a really good life, even with all of this going on around us. She does a ton of other...

The extra batteries comment was a fact of that particular day, not something that matters overall. This isn't an all day thing, by any means. My statement was more about how I felt my outside outlet was taken from me, in a way, but hers continues. And in her mind, there appears to be no...

I could ask her. I originally thought the same thing when I joined, but there are a lot of comments from others I know she'd read into at first and I think it'd overwhelm her senses, quite honestly. I told her I was doing this before I did, though. So she could be reading all this already and...

Okay. So, I thought of something on my end reading this. I had a very hard time understanding the edging thing. I'm someone who very much faces problems head on. When that all first arose and went on for a bit, I had a terrible time understanding what she was looking for. I started being pushy...

She's typically rational and has emotions that correlate. Outside of fights or argument-type settings, she's a compassionate person. She does extremely thoughtful things for people all the time. After talking this through more, I'm thinking that she's maybe protecting her position more than...

Making me think. I like it. Okay, so first, yes, she did do sex work more, previously, but her job now is more of a career and produces far more income. The OF and things have become much more about her sexual health than a financial need at this point. Having said this, I have my own online...

I'm going to add something I've been putting some thought into, which is-- why do I internally compare her edging to me having a friendship? Or even an online relationship, if that were to come one day; an emotional relationship, regardless. The reason is because she talks about how that will...

You're absolutely right, and yesterday we discovered this aspect between us, as well. I described it in this way: I will never entertain the curiosity of another female beyond the level of a first date, and saying things like, "I love you" is completely out of the question. That seemed to be...

Thank you for the perspective. I only used the word "big" in contradiction to her always saying her exchanges are meaningless. Big in this scenario means talking to one person more than a day. I absolutely do not want an entirely separate relationship. Maybe this is part of our communication...

This is hard to explain, but here goes. About a year ago is when I found out my wife was doing the edging thing, and she opened up to let me see some of these conversations she was having. Like, for the first time, I got to see and read her conversations. I was absolutely comfortable with the...

Lol, that's actually a really good point. I should've thought of that, and will in the future. Yes, May and April works great, thank you. I loved that lol. And I actually did mean complementary in your first interpretation. Although, the second does work. Regardless, it was not a typo. My wife...

I want to point out that I never put down her online relationships. I spoke that way here to explain my perspective. So, you're mostly correct. 95% of this is spot on and you give solid advice. I am trying to be supportive as well as understanding that this is coming from a place of insecurity...

Thank you for the perspective, Kevin, it's valued. I think I poorly wrote the beginning. We see each other every night. We live in the same place, but she commutes two hours each way to the city. I am developing our land and taking care of the rescues, livestock, etc. I very much think you are...

Good to know, I didn't know that at all. Thank you.

I think a once a week thing, even short, would be a great place to start. Some music, no screens, sounds like a path to success, great advice.

That's not exactly focused, though. Showing affection out of comfortability isn't the same as taking time to feel your partner's features and make them feel your love. It does sound like he is spending time with you though, just not in the capacity you desire. If you were to ask him directly for...