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Thank you Tinwen! Yes, I'm safe in sharing these emotions with my husband, and he's been wonderful about it. He's just been absorbing a lot of my emotions since this happened, so I thought I would give him a break and find someone else to talk to :) And, I worry that if I share too much pain...

Thanks Hinterlands. The previous relationship was smooth at times, very rocky at times and ultimately didn't work out (for a lot of complicated reasons). I do have a lot of grief about it ending, grief for lost friendship and the ability to raise our children together in one family. But that...

Hi, I haven't been here in a while. I first joined this site when my husband fell in love with another woman 6 or 7 years ago. She lived with us for most of that time and had two children with my husband, but that relationship ended last year and she no longer lives with us. None of us had other...

Thanks so much everyone for your thoughts. Magdlyn, we have Stop Walking On Eggshells! I've only paged through it but I'll give it a more thorough read soon. My husband's psychologist father gave it to him in regards to his ex-wife who he believed had BPD. So it looks like this is BPD wife...

Well, I do feel that it was forced in a way, because I agreed to her moving in on a trial basis, but then there was no trial period because she got pregnant right away. But that's in the past and I need to get over it. I could equally say to her that nothing was forced on her, she knew that...

It's not actually decorated with my things or my style. My husband was here for years before I arrived so it's pretty much his stuff. It's not my house any more than hers, except I do have better living space due to being here first. But yes, I see your point about the room. Hopefully the...

What about my post shows I'm unable to put myself in her shoes? I just admitted that space is more of an issue than I had thought. Whenever there's conflict each side usually has trouble seeing the other's perspective. I make a real effort to do so; I am not perfect at it but certainly no...

Thank you. I hope you all are right that this is mainly a space issue. We actually are working on fixing up space above the garage for her to live in. It won't have a kitchen or bathroom, at least not now, just bedrooms are as much as we can afford right now. Honestly, the animosity between...

Hi. I first joined this forum years ago when my husband first fell in love with another woman (http://www.polyamory.com/forum/showthread.php?t=3653&highlight=rachelina). What's happened since then is this: I got pregnant in 2011. She moved in 3 months before I had my baby. I had agreed to...

We seem to be doing the opposite. Our currently long-distance girlfriend is scheduled to arrive shortly before our baby is due. I do worry that it will be a lot of change to adjust to at once. On the other hand, I think it will be great to have an extra person around to help with the baby and...

Wow, I'm still amazed that it's even a remote possibility that a child could be taken away because she has three loving parents instead of two. Unbelievable. Really, I had been more interested in advice on the emotional dynamics of this kind of situation, but I'm glad you all opened my eyes to...

Wow... I had no idea that could happen. I did look up my state's Child Protection Act and didn't see anything that would apply to polyamory. As far as I can tell, the state only gets involved in cases of abuse or neglect, but I'll read it more thoroughly later. There was a section called...

Thank you for your responses, Tonberry, MrFar and Black Unicorn. :) Tonberry, I'm curious and alarmed by what you said about people worrying that their children could get taken away. Has this happened? This isn't illegal, is it? Could a well-cared-for child really be taken away from its two...

I wish my post could have remained separate. Now it is lost in this thread which doesn't really apply to my situation. There are some interesting stories here, but I couldn't find any about people in a triad or vee having NEW children, to be raised in a polyamorous family with three parents...

Having children in a triad/vee I did search for this, but most of what I found was about preexisting children (actually, my husband does have four of those, but they are with us mainly on weekends). I saw the thread "new babies," but our situation is different, so I decided not to post there...

I have to disagree with the idea of taking drugs to deal with perfectly natural emotions. Everything Mahogany is feeling is normal. As for it being impossible to get hooked on SSRIs, visit www.paxilprogress.org which supports thousands of people struggling and suffering in the effort to get...

Hi Taiel. I am in a somewhat similar situation. I don't have time to say much now but here is my original post, if you are interested: http://www.polyamory.com/forum/showthread.php?t=3653&highlight=brand+hurting To briefly answer your questions: I decided to try going along with my husband's...

My husband, his girlfriend and I recently watched the 1962 film Jules and Jim. Here is the Netflix synopsis: Writers Jules (Oskar Werner) and Jim (Henri Serre) are close friends who fall in love with the same woman, the unpredictable Catherine (Jeanne Moreau), amid the turbulence of World War...

Man.....I know exactly how that feels. I can say that I have been in your position and it has gotten better. Two months is not long at all; it took many months for me to even begin to accept it. Hang in there..... Redevil, it really sounds like he is trying as hard as he can! Such a radical...

Hi Mahogany, I just want to give you a little encouragement. I'm in the same situation, only it has been 6 months since my husband told me about his girlfriend. In the beginning I felt just as you do now and the pain was unbearable. But so much has changed: she has become my dear friend and...