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I tend to agree except there is some hope as she’s started talking with some poly friendly therapisfs and she seems to be set on working on some traumas and anxieties. Im not lookimg to lose myself in her by any stretch. It’s just been challenging to process.

Thanks for the thoughtful responses. It definitely has me wondering what the hell is going on at moments. Definitely icky. I don’t love being told a lot of good things, yet seeing and feeling conflicting actions. It would not bother me if she were transparent and said, “Hey, I have these other...

Thank you all for the thoughtful advice. It’s something I have my moments with. We went away for a nice romantic weekend. I did take time to talk about this with her and she clearly was shook and denied it. Yet she spent a considerable and noticeable time on her phone, flaunting it, in a way...

My soon to be ex wife and I are in the middle of a divorce and it’s as mostly amicable as it can be. I have a few poly relationships that started during the marriage and I now find myself with more time for these partners. This is all great and I have found a lot of my emotional needs being met...

I know we both understood that feelings could arise. It wasn’t off the table at all. She was encouraging and supportive of my dates and also aware of the developing feelings. This makes her reaction a bit surprising. I do understand the advice or sentiment on whether I’m actually poly or...

Thank you so much for your kind words. You are right that she is really such a sweet, loving, and caring person. But there’s that element of always wondering if I am saying or doing the wrong thing will she snap or be upset. I have been seeing a therapist for three years and it’s been amazing to...

That’s great advice. We’ve been together 24 years so there is a lot of pain and hurt right now. I’m confused emotionally. I definitely want my marriage to work, but in a healthy way. I am far from perfect and I think my inability to communicate effectively with my wife is a problem. But part of...

I appreciate your response. I agree I don’t feel we are that far apart, really. I recognize some of her hurt can be due to how I didn’t effectively communicate throughout the process. But I ask myself, would she have been any less angry a few months ago, when I was figuring out my feelings...

My wife SP and I opened our relationship over a year ago and started dating solo, in addition to swinging playtime. Overall this went okay, with some bumps in the road, as expected. I started dating someone last May (let’s call her NC) and we see each other about twice per month. This...

Galagirl, thank you for your input. I realize I was a little all over the place there. Regarding the NRE/dinging/mind reading-- yeah, I put dates in our schedule/shared calendar. This HAD been okay before. I had become conscious about not overbooking. Our shared agreements are trust, respect...

Thanks for the input. It’s been interesting so far, as I admittedly am the one who moved faster and unintentionally rewrote rules or pushed boundaries. She’s certainly more domineering and assertive. I’m not a pushover, but I struggle to articulate my voice when there is tension present.

I am struggling a bit lately. My wife and I opened up about a year ago and started dating solo about 7 months ago. We have been together nearly 24 years and overall things have been solid and good. About a month ago, she started showing signs of insecurity and uneasiness. It stemmed from her...

Thank you Kevin, I appreciate the kind words and advice. I agree and I think we are both learning what open means to us. Some of the communication had been triggering for both of us at times when tension would arise. I think when we decided to start swinging we had a unified idea of what that...

Thank you for your response. It’s interesting to me because I largely feel like we were on the same page. I’ve been slightly ahead of her in terms of frequency of dates but only because of her having some work related demands and a few of her guys having to shuffle around plans. She’s never been...

Hi everyone, My wife and I have been married for 22+ years. We fantasized for most of that time and started swinging a little over a year ago. We both started going on solo dates earlier this year with good success. We've both had some really good connections. One of mine has turned fairly...