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Two things: gala knows her stuff. Trust her. I'm in a similar boat in regards to the male female attraction thing. It's difficult to understand. If you wanna talk I'm all ears there. The whole idea of your wife with another guy, that's also my wheelhouse. I have gone from massively turned off...

An interesting view that I will have to consider, the opposite of love being indifference.

Fear not. I won't allow myself to fall that low. It happened to me before and I have relentlessly worked to make sure I recognize my limitations and to pause before acting on that, make sure I never get too close to that line. Hence why I'm debating going. I was simply stating how low I felt in...

So this is spiritual to me. I want to discuss love and hatred (specific hatred for one person, not anything else), and how I have come to feel about them, and hear your thoughts, especially if we apply poly concepts to hatred. (And frankly I could use the distraction) So, I view love and hate as...

As a ps: I dressed like it was a date. I even took a fairly (I think anyway) artistic selfie, was going to post to Facebook (I don't post on fb typically, especially selfies) I wore her favorite outfit, did my hair the way she likes (I have long hair), her favorite cologne, shaved, everything...

She promised she would leave between 1 and 2. This was so she would be home to cook with me. A favored past time. She texted me minutes ago to tell me they are 45 minutes from his house. And 2.5 hours beyond that from his to mine. Plus she still has to repack her essentials and have the long...

It was supposed to be that, and how to cope. But to be honest, I'm pleased this talk evolved the way it did. Multiple view points are excellent for me as I can mix and match ideas to fit them to me and my wants/needs. I honestly can't Thank these people enough for the truly invaluable knowledge...

Holy crap what a bunch of replies. So....I have discussed time management with her. Detangling is difficult but I am forcing it upon myself. She has said "I'll call you tonight" and I said "if there isn't something major to talk about then we can just talk tommorow" It has really reduced my...

That was basically it. I felt like a time filler. She called this morning and we talk only a bit longer, not much. But the time wasn't determined by when he got back with the dog. She wants calls every night and day while we cope with not being together to ease the stress a tiny bit. I tend to...

Just in perception, I don't think its the word so much as how people view it. My wife is serious with someone beyond me, and that in of itself doesn't bother me much. Check out my thread on hyperspeed relationships. While it's clear Im struggling, there are some great articles there that I...

I use okcupid. It is one of the few that allows for various arrangements. Such as poly or mono, ect.

Posted a bit here, just a quick question. My wife, calling her emerald, upset me last night. She spends hours dealing with a new relationship. She called last night, as she spent the night. Here's the issue, she literally told me off the bat we only had as long as it took her boyfriend, we will...

Personally I am a big fan of such set ups. But that relates to my personal kinks. And like said before, it really depends on everyone involved

She basically failed to consider me. But after I sat her down and explained that the expense she endured was so great I basically was screwed over, she started talking about the splitting travel up and we have discussed the allowance as you suggested. She is slightly uncomfortable with it for...

I been in something similar. Watched my marriage slowly collapse around me under the guise of poly. Just know you aren't alone, and there is a tommorow. Oh, and these fine folk on this forum know what they are talking about.

So...it's been a while. Detangling is going well. I never did go out though, mainly because of money (gas) and the wife was initially angry...so what I did was go to an old happy spot. She at least got her date (she planned it to happen while I was out) and I did leave the house. We talked about...

Took your advise. Working on detaching. Working on some corrective thought (admittedly easier said than done.) She is gone for the weekend and I'm planning a hang session with a friend later in the week. I had a sudden ability to humanize her guy which almost instantly calmed me down. Is that...

What do you mean?

Because I handle stress exponentially better

So what happened in the past is I would start warming up to someone new. Every single time as I would start to form real Romantic attachments the wife would have some huge emotional disaster, and basically say "I require all of my husband's time and energy for the next several weeks while I am...