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    Hello from Belleville, IL

    Quad Still recovering from the loss of our female partner. He now has a new partner but the chemistry is totally different (he's in love with her, but we're not). It's been a year and we've tried to adjust but it just doesn't work, so I guess we're going to have to let go and live with the...
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    Hello from Belleville, IL

    Info I/we recognize that this isn't a dating site and never thought that it was. I simply threw the height/weight/etc thing in there at random when I created the account, being somewhat at a loss as to what sort of info was expected or useful for other members here. Being somewhat more...
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    Advice for newly open marriage

    Which also raises the question (since she's obviously of child-bearing age) of what happens if a pregnancy results (oops's happen). Not the sort of conversation you and she want to have as a surprise.
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    The other kind of jealousy…

    "...my kind of jealousy is more of a I-am-so-much-better-why-would-he-waste-his-time-with-her-when-he-could-be-with-me?… I have found no information on how to handel this kind of jealousy in any self-help forum so far." If two people voluntarily spend time together, it's because something in...
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    Article: What Cheating Looks Like in a Polyamorous Relationship

    Cheating in a poly relationship Nice article! So nice to see someone separating the activity from the violation of trust as the real driver in 'cheating'. Trust is at the very root of every human relationship, whether it's poly, mono, or anything else. Violate that trust and the foundations...
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    Why apologise for asking permission to ask a question?!? This is the place to ask questions...

    Why apologise for asking permission to ask a question?!? This is the place to ask questions. If we're offended by your question, we'll either ignore it or flame you. LOL If we're not offended, we'll answer as honestly as we're able. :-) Isn't it always better to learn from other's mistakes...
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    Hello from Belleville, IL

    His/Hers accounts Thank you. We know that when it's time, it's time, but it still hurts. We're both flying down to be with him for a while and for her memorial services. I created the account for both of us, but she refuses to use a computer. I had built a computer of her own so that she...
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    Hello from Belleville, IL

    Identification Kevin: Thank you for the very nice welcome. :-) We identify as kinda-sorta-Poly. We've been in a very happy Poly Quad for over twenty years, but our female partner passed away on Christmas day so now I guess we're a Poly Triad? We're certainly Not kicking him out of our...
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    Looking for polyamorous couple/triad for interview feature

    Poly life? There are so many different 'flavors' of polyamory that it's almost easier to think of Poly as a spectrum of non-traditional relationship styles than as a single discrete 'lifestyle'. We've been in a very happy quad for over twenty years, but recently had the F half of our quad pass...
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    Casual love--YES, PLEASE.

    Okay, let's define the term Not to dis anyone at all, but I see a lot of posts throwing the word "love" around yet I'm not certain that everyone means the same thing by it. So, how are we defining "love"? I'm in love with my wife and we're in love with our quad partners and they love us back...
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    Hello from Belleville, IL

    We're a MWC, married 47 years and still in Luv. Retired military, have lived many places and done many things together. We enjoy traveling together and with others, seeing new places, doing new things, learning new things. He; 6'2"/220, very quiet until you get to know him. She; 5'5"/210...
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