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    Openness advice or tips

    You mentioned you brought up partner swapping as an interest and that would lead to an assumption you want other partners... Have YOU decided you are monogamous? Or has your girlfriend decided for you? Jealousy is a tricky one with whole books and threads about it. Best search for them! You...
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    Advice for another poly in a mono marriage

    Seems to me that the beginning of your journey and trials was when the theory of open/poly etc that you both discussed suddenly became a reality even though there was no sex and only the confirmation that it was no longer theory to you. That's when she woke up that she was not up to it. And...
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    Renegotiated partnerships

    Ah, ok marriage is just a bit of legal paperwork to your husband and you, but is a meaningful real relationship paperwork to your other. Are you monogamous by nature? It may well be IF you marry Mr back n forth, he might then expect you to be mono as well....and thus give up seeing your then ex...
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    Renegotiated partnerships

    I'm a bit confused You say you are married and have a husband and a partner who is mono but has meltdowns over marriage to you Does he think you will divorce your husband for him? or that he ''should' marry you if he is to have a ''real'' relationship with you? He seems to be fixated on...
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    Being her Cuckold is one thing, but I don't think I can cope with Poly.

    Thanks for the very clear reply David. You are very wise about not fathering a child at a time when your relationship with Lena is anything but solid.
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    What precautions are you taking against the coronavirus in your poly networks?

    Ok... First it starts with sourcing the chicken, naturally. Generally chickens are hard to catch unless they have been raised by hand from very young. This is important especially when you are busting for a crap. You know, belly pains and threat of a brown visitor in your pants kind of...
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    SOS: Finally entering the poly level with my partner

    Hi, I'm pretty new to dealing with polyamory and my own emotions. But something struck me in reading the above quoted part of your story, it is something I have had to tell myself a few times as the one who asked for an open marriage. ''Be careful what you wish for''... It looks to me that you...
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    What precautions are you taking against the coronavirus in your poly networks?

    In answer to what precautions... Relationships: Monogamy for the time being. No chasing women around for me, no lovers on the horizon for Minxi. Need to stock up on lube, which was strangely sold out at the local supermarket. Financially: We are self employed. First we make whatever orders we...
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    Being her Cuckold is one thing, but I don't think I can cope with Poly.

    I would like to ask a question David... Earlier you said two things that I remember, One being that you Have PE (premature ejaculation) and that your 'strength' lay in other skills. You also stated that according to your partner, Grant would make an excellent father. So, my assumption is that...
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    Is my “poly” relationship a fraud?

    We too never had to discuss rules and boundaries in 11 odd years. We were and are, highly compatible. Once we started to open the marriage we did a lot of book learning and coming up with scenarios we though could arise and seeing how we felt about them. wasn't always smooth sailing... they...
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    How does a triad work? Potneitlaly with children from both male partners?

    As the other seasoned poly people have said... Take it slow! If you were mono dating, after 4 months (even if you had been having sex) you don't really know the person. They are, and you are, still on your best behavior at that point in a relationship. Even after one year you are likely to...
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    Is my “poly” relationship a fraud?

    Hi, have some similarities to you in feelings, I feel some of your pain. If I may I will comment my 10c worth based on my fledgling journey. I have no experience in the sexual dynamics you have though. That was plain wrong of her, sorry. She didn't respect your wishes and feelings.(If she knew...
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    What precautions are you taking against the coronavirus in your poly networks?

    There are no precautions that need to be taken beyond any regular cold or flu season: stay way from the same people you would anyway and wash your hands. I was at a doctors today (routine STI screening) and he was dumbfounded by the pandemic panic. What really really baffled he and I is the way...
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    I'm a "swinger," but I LOVE my multiple partners

    well, not so much forbidden...Noodle was single (just not over his ex) Minxi was blown away by connection she didn't expect to find. It was the SPEED and INTENSITY that was the problem for us at the time. We were underprepared for it. Not so much a 'left' as they hadn't really worked out what...
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    Being her Cuckold is one thing, but I don't think I can cope with Poly.

    I don't understand Cuckolding ... so I wont comment more on the subject David. I did get the impression from the earlier posts that your GF was kind of railroading you into excepting relationship things you were not comfortable with and got pretty mad that you didnt except her changing things...
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    I filed for divorce today.

    Sorry for the divorce, I hope it is amicable... Its a sad thing, been there done that. here's to the future. on another note... Every relationship you have had worked very well, until it didn't.
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    Being her Cuckold is one thing, but I don't think I can cope with Poly.

    Correct, It is not cuckold in any way David. It is fine if you do not want to, but does being a cuckold mean you have no say at all in your own rights and choices? Why can't you be her cuckold and another persons lover? I understand being a cuckold in your own bedroom but don't understand being...
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    I'm a "swinger," but I LOVE my multiple partners

    Just so you know Magdlyn... Your extrapolation was not unreasonable :) But I think you would have read my deeper explanation... Not quite... We had agreed a bout 3 weeks before to attend but on the night Minxi wasn't feeling it. She agreed to go anyway. It was a night that did have single men...
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    Meet new couple online.

    I struggle a little to understand your situation as far as who you are seeing or chatting to... However i see the bigger issue you face as being the matter of men who seem unable or unwilling to tell their wife about you immediately. That is the big red flag. If they don't tell right away, run.
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    Poly led to some really sexist shit

    Poly? I am afraid I can't see any poly at fault, nor how this reflects on the poly scene. It sounds much more like the swing scene than poly. The term 'others in the lifestyle' is a classic swinger talk. I think what led to some sexist shit was more likely using G, which is known for its...
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