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    Thank you so much for all the tips and advice. I don't feel so hopeless and lost.
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    No I absolutely have not shut her out at all. We talk about our days, and our normal phone calls etc. It's been mostly normal other then the me telling her I'm working through some stuff. I appreciate the feed back!
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    I appreciate you! And your advice thank you 😊
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    A few random points I'd also love to hit on, so the group dates or setting where I've made my wife feel like a 3rd wheel or she's the extra I know isn't good and I own I haven't known how to navigate a wife and gf together. And probably isn't a good idea until I do. As someone stated. My wife...
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    Yeah she really likes him or thinks she could. He's a really nice guy and I get along with him super well. He's told me pretty much he's got butterfly for her and she makes him feel good and being around us and our group makes him feel good. She's just super afraid to get involved because it...
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    I appreciate all the feedback. It's been tough these last few weeks. She's had this guy that's been in the picture, but doesn't want to get involved with, because she feels she's a mess. That girl I'm dating is now my girlfriend. We have told each other we love one another. Which was forced...
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    I appreciate the feedback and positive vibes truly! Thank you! And hopefully that is the case! I want her to truly see that I have changed. Unfortunately so sluggishly!
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    So I'd like to note, regardless of her inevitably feeling like that, I know if things didn't work out with this other person, I'd truly support her and still be poly. I have been actively reading books, such as Polysecure, sought out a licensed poly counselor that we will both go to weekly, and...
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    No. I was never opposed to poly. She actually had a gf when we where together, well before we actually dipped into this. However, I was very jealous and insecure a lot and definitely not supportive. I let my emotions toxically come out when we both got into the poly world. And I know it wasn't...
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    Yes. I want so much to give her the same support she has given me. Unfortunately, now I'm dealing with the hard truths of her feeling like the only reason I wanna do it, is because I'm dating someone now. Which is crummy. I've just been a slow grower, but was moving fast and not giving her the...
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    Thank you. I appreciate the feedback, and not beating me down. Honestly, I was expecting to be reamed. Felt it was fitting....
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    Apologies for my grammar, and the lengthy post. I'm a male, in a 15-year marriage with my wonderful wife. We decided to open up our marriage several years ago. She was non-mono with a girl early on in our marriage, pretty much anything goes. I hit the ground running, and honestly wasn't...
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