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  1. Ivylein

    Polyamorous women aren’t just ‘pleasing their man’ – it’s a choice

    De Beauvoir and Sartre were my heroes in college. I think it's one of the reasons why I've been polyamorous for 32 years.
  2. Ivylein

    Finally, there is clarity? Then and now with OnceAndFuture

    Autonomy? One of the biggest reasons I chose polyamory is that it offers more autonomy to the participants than monogamy. I just cannot imagine having a partner that would go this berzerk over a Skype. I run my own life, am friends with people I choose, and communicate with them as I see fit...
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    vent/thinking through how to communicate hurt

    It's times like these when I consider, "Would I hurt less if this person wasn't in my life?". If the answer is no, it would hurt the same or worse, then forgive and be happy for the time you do have together. It's not fair to speculate how he would be handling his mother-in-law, because he...
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    <Insert Witty Greeting>

    Hi Perrey, welcome!
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    Lack of attention

    Ice Cream for the win! It takes great courage to continue to love when you're frightened. I think that if you can continue to be generous with her, this other internet thing is going to burn out.
  6. Ivylein

    "Somebody more important came up."

    Yeah I know People always make time for things they really want to do.
  7. Ivylein

    Lack of attention

    powerpuffgrl1969 what is your problem? Are you involved in this situation? Have you offered any advice of your own? Do you realize a full 28% of everything you've ever posted is to rag on me? I'm seeing InTheDark as a guy who wants to save his marriage, and is coming at it in an adversarial...
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    Radfem from Quincy, IL

    One of the requirements for a new city is that it be snow/ice free. I struggle with the change of seasons, and I'm too fragile to slip and fall on the ice. Colorado would be lovely if I was younger, I used to love to ski!
  9. Ivylein

    Lack of attention

    Umm, because what he is doing right now is not working? Seriously, the choices are make it better or break up. If he wants to make it better, he's got to get more creative. This dom person of hers needs a wake up call that he's not in charge.
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    Radfem from Quincy, IL

    Thanks! Thank you for the welcomes. It's so cozy here! I have done my homework with regard to Austin, the little blue dot in the mighty red state. I suppose I can do my part to turn Texas purple. The light went off in my head when I heard that Austin's slogan is "Keep Austin Weird". If...
  11. Ivylein

    Why and how did you get into poly?

    Polyamory as a fuck-you to compulsory monogamy I decided to be polyamorous before the word was invented. As a young woman, I read an essay by Adrienne Rich called "Compulsory Heterosexuality and Lesbian Existence". It spoke to me, as someone struggling with her sexual orientation, and with...
  12. Ivylein

    Thanks for friending :-)

    Thanks for friending :-)
  13. Ivylein

    Your most recent OKC messages. post em here!

    I've been off of OkCupid for a while; the dating pool in my area is the size of a puddle, and trying to make it work with someone in St. Louis just didn't work. I couldn't find anyone willing to drive the 2 hours to visit me, so all the driving wound up on my shoulders. Out of the blue I got...
  14. Ivylein

    What is the weirdest thing you think is hot?

    This so much!!!!!!!!!!!:D
  15. Ivylein

    Religion, politics, sex .. and other taboo subjects

    Huckabee vowed to repeal gay marriage, but he's gone baby gone, and good riddance.
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    Radfem from Quincy, IL

    Hello polyamory.com! I'm a longtime lurker, and I'm sick of the Facebook poly groups. I'm sick of Facebook altogether actually. I'm bisexual, in a 32 year non-monogamous marriage, and am currently celibate. My partner has high blood pressure and diabetes, and that, along with the medicine he...
  17. Ivylein

    BF's new GF is a cowgirl?

    I would have dumped him for even considering a purity ceremony without consulting me.
  18. Ivylein

    Lack of attention

    Can you think of something she might like to do with you? Go away for the weekend to visit a spa, take the kids to a cabin overnight, or if you're close enough, a beach trip? It sounds like your family needs a vacation. If you want more pleasant interaction with her, then you're going to have...
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