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Definitely agree that it's good PR. And while you're right, it's not a recruitment thing, I certainly hope there will be some people out there who see this and go "You know, I've always felt this need to love more than one person too. I need to think long and hard about this concept." So...

Welcome to the site. As a gay poly guy, I do not know of any polyamory sites or services that are LGBT-specific. I really think starting with you local poly community and your local lgbt community---and trying to form a bridge between the two---is your best bet. It has worked for me so far...

I thought it was extremely well-done. Poly in the Media (polyinthemedia.blogspot.com) has some reviews and clips and you can see how good it is. Also found a 3 minute clip that was cut from the final edit, that you can see online...

I got to this thread late and lots of good advice already. Suffice to say, this isn't Poly. This is part Dirty Old Man Syndrome, part Asshole-itis, and you need to free yourself from this creep as fast as possible. It is NOT ethical nonmonogamy when someone pushes another person around to...

I don't know much at all about UUPA, but I am assistant organizer with my local poly meetup. It's a big group in a growing metro, so we try to fill the calendar with a hodgepodge of stuff and cover the whole region evenly. Mostly social meetups---that brings out the most interest by far...

I wish!!! :p I'm getting antsy. :D .....or smoke crack! :D :D lol .

Sounds great! Glad to hear it's going well! :cool:

Agree with Jane. I'm glad y'all are seeing counselors and I wish luck with the sex therapist too. The good news is there is a LOT of silver lining to your cloud. I highly recommend focusing on the good things going on as much as you can---it should lessen the anxiety you're feeling about this...

Well you're right to be concerned because when you're talking triads, the "weakest link" can often set the tone for entire triadic relationship. Been there, done that. Fortunately though it's pretty clear you love both your partners and both love you. So fortunately it's only a sexual link...

All that could be factors. Women in poly do tend to have less trouble finding possible partners. That's well known. You mention location---geography is always a huge factor. What do you know of the poly population in your region? Have you reached out and made friends? Are there even a...

It's over-generalizing, for sure. I've often said, instead, that when bisexuals learn what polyamory is and that it's an option, they're more likely to understand the advantages of it and how it can be logically a good thing. I think they tend to have a more open mind, possibly as a result of...

The really really short messages are becoming more and more common as people are used to a text & app-based world. Instead of using these sites as a personal ad that you read thoroughly then type out a well-thought response, folks these days (particularly males under 35) will just use it as an...

Is there a poly group anywhere near you? Maybe some of the members can refer you.

hi Welcome! Your situation does sound familiar. Here's a really good article I recommend that could be very helpful: http://sexgeek.wordpress.com/2010/03/14/tips-and-tricks-for-triads/ Good luck! :cool: .

All about Image! Also, there's a large number of people in society that are more concerned with image than substance. Sigh. At least with cheating--in their minds---you can appear to everyone else as still doing Monogamy and thus part of mainstream society. As opposed to Polyamory which is a...

Does going to a Poly meetup count? Met one good date that way...with another potential or two in mind. But that's easier than say at a bar, because you know at least you have a similar lifestyle. I never have good luck at bars or other single events cuz everyone either wants a one-nighter...

Well I cannot comment on the difference of preferences for what type of Poly that you and your husband have, other than to say that's an issue you two really need to find some common ground on. And soon. As for holidays and secondary partners and their expections.....That I can give you an...

Switch girlfriend for boyfriend and wife for husband and it's still true. :p (Or in the poly world make it plural...girlfriends, boyfriends, wives, husbands...LOL.)

I don't have much advice either, but it does happen in the way you describe. I have talked online to a member of a quad that started as a couple as primary partners, and they each had a separate secondary. They introduced the two secondaries--they hit it off well---and within a couple years...

It's a good point. I know people who are very out and some who are very deep in the closet. The former seem to be much happier and less-stressed in general. (Not to mention, are more able to get dates even.) I totally understand not bringing it up to coworkers and relatives. That's usually...