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Hunnybunny. The above conttibuters are making solid grounded advice. Foremost you have to care for your emotional well being & your needs, NRE can overwhelm your judgement. I learnt the hard way. A guy may make promises but not be able to provide you a safe & nurturing relationship you need to...

Hi. How will you build on this V if you are only here in Australia for a short period. As l require a dedicated time with someone. Long distance requires a fair amount of effort.

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Eyes wide open..Cheers

I fell off the horse. But l got back on. I realised Kile has freed me up to meet other guys. This time l have to not lose my head.

Indeed. This was the hardest lesson. Establishing my needs. Reading so many others who have established healthy poly fills me with optimism. Having many who love & adore you. Sounds wonderful. I know it comes with work. love fits into real life, rather than usurping it. It’s calm, not overwhelming.

Its been a journey. Hope to learn more about myself & how l can establish whats important to me, giving myself a stronger voice whether its in polyamory or monogamy. Thankyou Kevin

The little thing was of great value to me. He didnt hold to majority of his words. Glad he wasnt polyamory finest example. I have to move forward however painful. Looking for hens teeth. I cant give up. You are most kind Kevin

Thanks again. Apparently he was full of hot air. I still miss him. Perhaps l was addicted to the physicality. I deserve someone who is willing to show up & give me equal time.

Thanks Kevin, It feels reassuring from your words. As l pushed for more time which l didnt feel anywhere being needy, & prioritising time, consistency was a battle. Getting no action was a mental strain. Felt he let my polyamory experience down. Bullet dodged. I know l wont always feel this...

Hey Kevin, Recent update . I dont think l was needy or demanding but Kile has gone silent on communication, up to 4 days, l resorted to calling him on a public phone, l got through. Said he would call. But didnt. I dont think l will get an explanation. We had one meetup over a week ago. I had a...

Hi Ryan. How are you. What kind foods do you enjoy eating? Whats the last movie you saw & resonated with you.

I guess l can ask. Whether l get the truth or whatever comes l will have to accept. I struggle with irrational reasons why it didnt work. Most of it came down to lack of respect, prioritising & communication. Ive had issues with self blame, some relating to child abuse. I am working my way out...

Looking at the qualities that require a positive poly relationship from Polysecure book, we hadnt really sat down & asked why? Expectations, made assumptions, that being the fact l didnt feel l was given much priority or respect. As l didnt get any response still haunts me, silly enough to want...

Sadly he has neither reached out to me via phone or text. I will leave one message. And cut my losses & go. I thank all of you on this forum for your support & kindness. I dont think l carry enough emotional resilience to be in polyamory relationship. But perhaps Kile is poor example of a...

Yup. One more question. Will have to ask him today. Time to move forward. Cheers

I hope to get some clarification tonight. I did consider that bandwidth challenge. Thanks Evie.

You may be right. As when he had the time he gave willingly. His Words of giving me priority seemed genuine . I got sucked into the poems & romantic prose. How do you figure the level of someone being genuine. Was he just messing with my head. I do feel like crap. I am talking to him tonight.

I have read the article. I know l have rights but its lot different when the person l love & adore is not applying the fundimental principles of value, love & respect 100%. to consent is different to actually doing. I want this to work but a few hours once a week wont build a meaningful connection.