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  1. SchrodingersCat

    New poly-friendly show on CBC!

    Hey Canadians! We have one of the first TV shows on network television with an openly polyamorous relationship!! "Crawford" on CBC features a family where the wife has a boyfriend and the husband knows all about it. I've only watched 4 episodes, but it's interesting how it's being handled...
  2. SchrodingersCat

    Paradigm shift after 11 years of poly

    I'm going to brain dump some stuff here. This post will introduce the topic, and I'll put more of my inner thoughts and workings in comments below. Husband: Grammar His new submissive: house elf Grammar has always been just interested in play, and expressed no desire for ongoing or romantic...
  3. SchrodingersCat

    New boyfriend too nervous --> losing interest

    TLDR: New boyfriend can't get hard because he gets too nervous around me and can't stop thinking. Also watches a lot of porn and masterbates frequently. While I know that PIV is not the be-all-end-all of sex, it's something I'm specifically seeking in my relationships right now. I already have a...
  4. SchrodingersCat

    Thanks for nothing, OkCupid...

    Nice try, but you guys dropped the ball. I got the email from OKC today: Other half? Sigh. You guys clearly missed the whole point of polyamory. Just to confirm, I went through the motions. There's no way to put in more than one name. It's clearly meant for couples who date as a unit, not...
  5. SchrodingersCat

    Think you have a low sex drive? Think again!

    Just came across this concept... "Nothing is wrong with your sex drive" Basically the idea is that there is "spontaneous sexual desire" and "responsive sexual desire." Spontaneous sexual desire is what most people associate with "sex drive." But there's also this "responsive sexual desire" in...
  6. SchrodingersCat

    "10 realistic rules for good non-monogamous relationships"

    http://sexgeek.wordpress.com/2007/06/10/10-realistic-rules-for-good-non-monogamous-relationships/ Confession: I didn't read every word, mostly just the headings and the bits that caught my eye... But I especially liked the "Go for content, not form" rule. And "Just go with the flow" is pretty...
  7. SchrodingersCat

    Legal definition of polygamy: Surprise!

    I'm sure most of us have heard about the recent ruling in Utah that polygamy is no longer illegal. However, it does not give them the legal right to "legally marry" multiple people, only that living with multiple people in a marriage-like relationship is no longer illegal. I did some digging...
  8. SchrodingersCat

    Can we have a "like" button?

    There are a number of online forums running the same engine as this one. Many of these have "like" buttons. Could we have that feature turned on for this forum? If not, is there a philosophical reason to make this decision? If there is, I'm curious to know what it is.
  9. SchrodingersCat

    "Gray-A" Asexuality

    How can it be that I'm so learndid on all this terminology, alternative relationship / sexuality / etc stuff... and I've never heard this term?? Gray-A describes people who are "more or less" asexual, but it's not that they don't have sex, just that they don't really have a sex drive and don't...
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    Porn sex vs Real sex... explained with food!

    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=E8wUp7GwwiU
  11. SchrodingersCat

    If you want to be happy for the rest of your life...

    There seems to be a rash of threads lately, coming from women in these horrible relationships with selfish men. The women keep saying I don't want to lose him, I love him so much, I've never felt like this with anyone... but I'm so miserable because he treats me poorly or I can't stand this poly...
  12. SchrodingersCat

    Wife's Diary, Husband's Diary

    Wife's Diary: Tonight, I thought my husband was acting weird. We had made plans to meet at a nice restaurant for dinner. I was shopping with my friends all day long, so I thought he was upset at the fact that I was a bit late, but he made no comment on it. Conversation wasn't flowing, so I...
  13. SchrodingersCat

    Contingency plan

    This refers to this thread but I want to separate the "whether" from the "what if." Basically, I need to think about what potential consequences this can have, and what tools we can use to cope with them. We're entering completely uncharted territory for all of us, so we don't have experience...
  14. SchrodingersCat

    husband and best friend want to have sex

    I'll try to be succinct, but more details may be necessary for clarification so please ask. My best friend, practically my sister, is coming out of a psychologically and verbally abusive relationship. She lives in another city, and my husband works out of town about 1 hour away from her, on a...
  15. SchrodingersCat

    Secondary Relationship Card

    It's funny.
  16. SchrodingersCat

    My boss's boyfriend is my girlfriend's husband

    I want this on a t-shirt. It's not quite true, but I did go on an excellent date today with a woman who is married to a man (technically, FTM) who is in a relationship with my supervisor, and it makes for a catchy title. OKC says we're very compatible, we managed to talk for three and a half...
  17. SchrodingersCat

    Why do we say "monogamous" ?

    We all make a big point of avoiding the "polygamous" label, but we throw around "monogamous" like it's the opposite of polyamorous. But literally, monogamous means one spouse. So technically, I'm polyamorous, monoandrous, and polysexual. This has actually been on my mind lately... brought up by...
  18. SchrodingersCat

    Polyamorous vs Ethical Slut

    Something about which I'd be curious to hear what others think... People often come in here with problems related to a partner wanting to have sex with other people. In some cases this leads to romantic feelings, in others it does not. Now, in my marriage, I'm polyamorous and my husband is an...
  19. SchrodingersCat

    Following the energy

    So I went to look for my blog on here, only to realize I never started one! So here goes... The last few months have been great, not that they haven't had their ups and downs. I met someone new, let's call her Erica. We met at a play party, my husband introduced me to her. She and I played...
  20. SchrodingersCat

    Check out my super sweet pumpkins!

    This has absolutely nothing to do with polyamory, but I'm just so stoked over the sweet pumpkins I carved this year. I haven't carved a pumpkin since I was a kid, but I decided to get one of those carving kits and print some stencils and well, they worked out pretty well...
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