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Honestly, we could probably lock this thread down and I might delete my account. Wife said no. She said she couldn't handle the thought of me being intimate with someone else. I asked if she was sure that was it, because I had rationales for other arguments, but that is one with no real...

How can I delete my account?

Yes, my new friend actually lives between where I live now and the town where I grew up and where I often go to visit family. I was thinking I'd just take a solo trip to see family and make a stop along the way.

Well, today I brought it up to my wife. She didn't give an outright no, and she needed lots of reassurance. I told her that I'm more than willing to work with her on establishing boundaries and limits. I told her that I'm not interested in going out and randomly hooking up with strangers; I...

Good question, and one I've asked myself. I think I'm just realizing that love is not a finite resource. Obviously, a LOT of this has to do with the sex. But I truly do love my wife. I genuinely want to stay married to her. She's a great partner and a wonderful person. I just can't spend the...

That's a good point, and I've thought of that.

I've gone back and forth on it. While I don't want to pile anything else on her right now, I feel like I need to start speaking my truth sooner rather than later.

I'm terrible at copy/paste, apparently. Wanted to also mention that your thoughts about sex with a partner vs. solo sex exactly echo my own. And yes, new friend and I are exchanging sexy pics/videos/chats regularly.

Thanks for your kind words. My new friend said that she thinks that I should tell her, but said that she understands why I don't. She also mentioned the fact that men have historically had mistresses, so there is some precedent for that. I want to bring it up. I do. I think that my wife...

TL; DR - in an LTR, but realize that mono isn't working for me. Hello, all. 51 M here. I've really only been in two LTRs in my life. Both were mono, although my first wife and I did dabble in swinging for a bit. It was fun, but we did it for the wrong reasons (trying to fix a marriage that...