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Just to add, I’m not stuck in the same place as I was in 2015. I stand up for myself a lot more, and my husband has grown a lot too. We've both started to understand more what the other needs (aside from the poly thing!)

Wow, I hadn’t quite realised how long it’s been since I posted my update. I’m not sure if Anyone who followed my journey is even still on this forum! But here I am, back here. Fancy an update? Why not eh? Haha! It’s been four years or so since I updated. I went through a very difficult time in...

Quick update, about 5 months on from my last one. My husband is in flat-out denial mode and thinks it can all be fixed. He desperately wants to retain our relationship but I know that I can no longer do that. Our paths have split and it's time to walk in the directions we both want to walk...

Hello lovely people. Its been a really difficult year. I tried to 'fake it til I make it' with my husband but everything about it just felt wrong. Currently we are living as friends, because I have requested it. He seemed to want to ignore all our problems (polyamory is only a part of it) and I...

Pregnancy is hard. Having your first newborn is SUPER hard. This extra stress on Mabel regarding potential 'infidelity' could potentially cause damage. High levels of stress are damaging. I'm only saying this so severely to make you really think...this is a new life, a new person you are...

I don't have much energy for a long update. It just sucks basically. I can't change him and he can't change me. So I guess we're attempting to accept that. Except, rather than think that I am 'different' or see things a different way to him, he just thinks I'm wrong and have no self control...

I disagree...quite strongly!! What do you mean by 'value'? Am I less of a person, less interesting, less sexually appealing, less awesome...just because I have children and some years on me? No. Personally, I don't think so. That sounds like that opinion is coming from some insecurities.

Personally, I don't think it's a fear you need to work on...I think it is a concern you need to raise with your wife.

What about those who don't do hierarchies within multiple relationships? I'm sure there are women who are with more than one man who have no primary/secondary...I know that is my preference. And I'm bisexual too, if I had a relationship with a woman I would want it to be just as equal.

That is a really good analogy. But perhaps she feels like she isn't paddling at all, but being dragged along by the Rapids. What she needs to be doing is getting a better balance of helping you into the boat whilst making sure she (and the other guy) don't fall out. It's a way more difficult...

Yay another Brit! I'm not in a position to go to meet-ups just yet but perhaps one day. Aren't there already meets going on?

I live fairly close to London but want to move away to where it's cheaper!!

Not a movie, but if she's into fantasy type stuff then the series Lost Girl is really good!

Thanks, I'm glad that it comes across that way for you as others here have misunderstood me a bit. I guess that just comes with the 'forum' territory. And yes, there is a cost to freedom. That's what has made this so difficult.

Hi and welcome! Lovely to have you here. I'm guessing you're an American living in London from your username? Hehe! How do you find it?

Welcome ShyButNice, hehe I like your name. And hurray for summer! I have a whoooole load of birthdays to deal with over the next few weeks. Lots of family get togethers which is a bit stressful for me right now but never mind! I'll get through it.

Hi CTF, I'm in a very similar situation yet I'm on the other side, where your wife is. It'll be hard for me to comment on this because of how hard I'm finding my own situation but I wanted to throw some thoughts out there. You say you wish she had told you about being poly before forming these...

Yes, except I get the argument "you've been reading too much stuff on the Internet/in books" and "you're so easily influenced..." etc. It's a tough road ahead for sure.

An agreement! What a miracle! Haha I am agreeing with you both...which is why I'm in this position I suppose. I've just started reading the book Sex At Dawn which is an interesting book.

Ooooorrr we have all been mis-sold (is that not a word??) on the idea that once you marry someone, they are to never change and they are to be that person forever. Regardless of what life throws at them. We sign a contract without really knowing our future selves or knowing the options that we...