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He broke up with me tonight. I'm done. I give up.

Okay so I asked if I were specifically excluded. The answer was no. And he did explain some things to me. I reiterated how exclusion makes me crazy. I did the communication thing! Scary, but I did it.

Well, he's made some time for me, so there's been progress. Right now, I'm hormonally compromised, but I know my reactions aren't just due to that. I think I need to write more and figure out what I want and need.

Yes, it's trust or not. No in between.

Quite honestly, I'm not sure either. I don't know if it's GF1 and GF2, or just GF1. But it looks unlikely I'll have time with him this week, like last. I'm really honest-to-god trying to understand and believe him when he says he's not avoiding me. But fuck, it's like I don't even count. My...

I don't understand. I started talking about plans that my friends were making for the holidays, and I got, "Well, WE are doing this," and I wasn't part of the "we." Excluded once again. What the fuck? Am I overreacting? I really was getting to where I was willing to just take things one day at a...

Yes, exactly, down to 25 mph. I could blame his work, but I don't want to be rational at the moment I had a lousy day at work. I needed someone to tell me that I am wonderful and loved, and I didn't get that. I get he's putting in like 13 hour days, I really do, and I don't want to seem clingy...

I'm having a rough day. Being in a quad sucks right now. Not only do I feel excluded, I feel ignored, lonely, hurt, and and really pissed off.

"Breath play" is definitely edge play, and really not to be done by people who don't know what they're doing. So I would really do some communicating about your concerns, because you're right, it can be very dangerous. Keep in mind, even though it's scary to see and think about, this was done...

luckily we (well my BF and GF1 and me) are involved in another alternative lifetyle as well - but since i've only been on the scene with them the last couple of months - we still odd looks from some of our friends - especially when like GF1 and me will be at one event with him and GF2 and GF1...

going to make that a new affirmation - gotta trust the Universe - i asked for happiness and it brought me to them - it's when the mind starts going and the fears start rifling through my brain that i forget - i create my own happiness, and it brought me to them :) mari

I actually have a huge fear of loss, in general, but particularly in this new quad relationship. While he and I have known each other for years, this is a much different interaction. And since I'm the newest on the scene, I feel the most "disposable," for lack of a better word, the person who's...

You know, i really needed to be reminded of that today. I decided not so very long ago that i was doneabsolutely done with being unhappy - and amazing things started opening up in my life - mari

Silly question. I'm all about the communication. But I'm so bad at it. I guess I'm afraid of being vulnerable. I know the others have more pressing needs at this time and I get that in my head. It's the internal self-talk that is really not helping. Also, I think I'm trying to ask questions and...

i am fascinated by this piece of your post " I can then intervene, if I catch myself at this silly making-myself-unhappy game" that's exactly what i am trying to figure out how to do. because i, not my relationship, am making me unhappy. it's the internal self talk that is driving me...

i'm new here too - and basically trying to find my way in this new path i've started walking. i'm the third GF in a quad, and it's a new relationship (less than 2 months) and the shiny has rubbed off, and i'm a bit perplexed about some of the emotions that are running over me. i talked more...

I'm very new to poly, in a quad, and the newest on the scene. The first month or so was awesome. Real life kicked in after that, and basically the "shine" wore off. I find that I'm envious, feeling a bit taken for granted, and like I'm waiting around for whatever time is left over for me. I'm...