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I think this is the girl who is a 19-year-old undergraduate, as described in Steve's other post :)

Would you happier if the guy were objectively super hot, smart, rich, successful, funny, interesting? You wouldn't feel jealous/threatened? What if he were super sexy but seemed like an asshole? What if he were completely similar to you, almost like a clone of you? In that case, would you feel...

Here are my thoughts, in no particular order: ENM involves rethinking relationships, a totally new paradigm, in which being at different life stages and different ages doesn't matter as much as it would with monogamy Maybe a 20-ish-year-old seeking something casual would be a better match for...

This sounds a little too troll-ish to be real, but in the spirit of generosity, let's say it is. So, you're saying you want to father 10 to 12 children yourself? With at least one to two women, who all live together and share the work? That's a lot of kids, so, kind of a lot of work. Will the...

What is your wife like apart from all this? As a person overall, as a partner, mother, colleague, friend...would you say she is emotionally healthy, happy, successful at navigating work relationships and friendships? Are your kids happy and doing well and getting along fine with her? Because...

How old is everyone? How long has everyone been poly? The problem here is the hinge. The Hinge has an insecure, jealous partner who deliberately was all over Hinge on the first meeting with a metamour (you) and THEN, instead of apologizing to you for making you uncomfortable, Hinge complains...

Thanks for the update. I am glad your relationship is still going well and you seem more used to the new situation now. I'll second Evie's advice that maybe there is a kink you'd like to be able to explore with your wife? Or maybe you'd be happier knowing fewer details of the scenes she does...

I am sorry to hear about Jay. It sounds like it would have been a lot of trouble navigating his monogamous mindset even without the narcissism. I'm glad you're doing well on your own. Good luck with your continued journey!

I'm sorry your work contract was not renewed. I think you'd be very good at poly/kink counseling. You give great advice here! Good luck as you find a new path forward.

I don't agree that polyamory is necessarily wrong for you. It sounds like the philosophy of poly relationships inherently makes sense to you, and that you feel you benefit from your queer platonic relationship. You were initially happy and supportive of you and your wife becoming poly. I don't...

How does Jess (your wife) feel about being more open about it? She's the one who has the right to decide how to present her marriage to her own parents (your in-laws). Just from reading your blog, I have the sense you want to proclaim your love for Dawn from the rooftops. You feel like you are...

They're not going to "get back together" for long, though, either.

I'm not sure what kind of advice I could give you because I'm not sure what you're asking, because everything you describe sounds... fine? Happy, even? It sounds like you're in a happy poly relationship with your wife, and she has a good relationship with her semi-long-distance boyfriend Simon...

I'm so glad it took MUCH less than 6 months for this relationship to blow up! Give your wife some grace. I think her behavior has largely been the result of this guy being weird right from the beginning. She didn't know how to handle it and now she probably needs time to process everything.

Your English is very good, by the way! You are totally in the right, and you are not doing anything unreasonable. I understand why you're so hurt. BUT I actually think you should regard this as a temporary situation that will resolve itself soon enough if you do your best to ignore it as much...

My first thought for you: Giving your partner the freedom of an open marriage sounds totally fine to me. But if you want to do that, you have to figure out a way to become okay with them having sex with others. That could be as simple as you accepting the emotional discomfort, sitting with it...

You may want to put more serious effort into your relationship with Jess. The gifts are just a symbol; Jess is asking for as much time and attention and appreciation as you devote to Dawn (or at least more than Jess is getting now). It's not about money or spending. Spend some time "dating"...

Actually, Tinwen, your partner sounds very similar in many ways to my ex Eli. That's what I came here to say. I totally get what you mean about having a relationship that people in your life were always skeptical about, and that no one's advice fits your situation. I loved Eli deeply for 12...

I actually get what Tinwen means here, and I just added a comment to Rachelina's thread with a slightly different slant than the previous advice. I've definitely felt like I am seeing more threads where it seems like the people involved should definitely break up. I have found myself giving...

Hi Rachelina, When I read your first post on this thread, my first thought was that maybe you were having a mental health issue rather than that you should consider leaving your husband. You described yourself as previously happy in a mono/poly marriage and having a good relationship with your...