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I think I'm entering this stage myself. While I snuggled my husband last night, after he not just agreed but SUGGESTED I fly out next week to visit Shiny New Boyfriend and my girlfriend-in-law for a professional development thingamajig in their area, I asked myself why I needed more, and...

Ditto on this, and my husband and I had even had discussions about opening our relationship up and found it not at all worth the bother. It was an option, we supposed, but added a layer of complexity to our marriage that simply wasn't worth it. Not that I've quite unexpectedly fallen for...

When I approached my husband, I was prepared for him to say he wasn't alright with me pursuing this new person in my life. I feel strongly that I have the desire and capacity to love more than one person, but I was, and still am, entirely willing to compromise with my husband if he decides it's...

It is about having cake and eating too, but as far as I'm concerned, I have two pieces of cake, and it's VERY important to me to make sure both my husband and my boyfriend know they are adored, so that my husband especially (since we're new to polyamory) never feels like you do. You asked how...

DTMFA. Seriously. Everyone has said what I want to say, but I wanted to expound on the "not allowed to date", thing. My husband's first marriage ended when his wife, who had redefined "poly" to mean "I'm going to go sleep around while your responsibility is to stay home and watch your...

I felt the same way when I started coming out to family as childfree, which became an amazingly complicated ordeal with family that I wasn't prepared for. We haven't even told my in-laws that we're never planning children; the bulk of the judgment comes from the fact that we don't have them YET...

I kind of felt the same way, especially after reading "The Ethical Slut", which, instead of giving me the guidance I was hoping for only confused me because this isn't a "ZOMG must have sex with lots of people" thing for me. I feel weird using the term poly to describe our new situation...

This was probably the most significant and amazing thing I noticed after DH and I talked and I really started to believe it was all for real. I feel like I'm remembering how to be in love, and it's something I'm not sure I'd have realized I was even missing without having my shiny new boyfriend...

Apparently I'm at that stage of a new relationship where I wonder where this is going and I start daydreaming. I've always been a very typical girl at this stage of things, once I've accepted that Boy and I really like each other, I'm confident that we'll have some sort of future together, and I...

Go you!!! This, I think, is the biggest thing that's different between us and people who cheat. Loving someone else doesn't necessarily mean your feelings have changed for the one who was there first. I'm really glad to hear it went so well for you. Keep the conversation flowing and great things...

It's kind of staggering how similar your situation is to my own. I wasn't looking for anything when I met and totally clicked with my boyfriend. We connected from our first email and things just kind of evolved and continue to evolve. But I was terrified of talking to my husband. We're about 8...

Yes. This. My husband and my bf are built very differently and both are extremely exciting. I know my husband has a lot of hang-ups over his size (for no reason… he's lovely), and I'm sure there's a part of him that wonders what my bf's packing, but he hasn't asked yet. The fact is, it's apples...

Oh, make no mistake, my husband knows how grateful I am and I'm making doubly sure he feels not only not forgotten while I'm away, but well-thought of throughout. My marriage continues to be my priority, and I know Shiny New BF has caring for his girlfriend down to a science. But there's excited...

Tomorrow I'm going off on my first weekend away with Shiny New BF and I can barely contain my excitement. Which is exactly the problem. My husband and BF's primary partner (my dear friend) know we're excited, but we're trying to keep the squeals and squees to a minimum around them, out of...

He *is* a great catch, thank you!! I am a lucky, lucky girl.

This is just becoming really real for me (seriously, as of this past weekend), but I have to say: * Falling asleep on the sofa in Shiny New BF's arms, snuggled in tight, and waking to his girlfriend squealing as she videochatted with her other boyfriend about how adorable we were. and *...

I'm a happily married childfree woman, been with my husband for six and a half years, married three and a half. It's wonderful to see some mono partners poking around this site because my husband, while he's very supportive of the relationship I have budding, isn't interested in finding another...

I'm new to this all myself, but my gut instinct upon reading your posts here and in another thread: You are not ready for this yet, AND YOU DON'T HAVE TO BE IF YOU'RE NOT. Maybe this is harsh, I don't know. This is one of the reasons when my husband and I married we both made it clear that if...

Thanks so much for all your sage advice. I've been doing that, just talking about it less, and the tension is gone. We're enjoying time together and he's not getting the feeling (that my questions were giving him) that my affection for him is overcompensation. Things are back to feeling more...

My husband and I have recently decided, after six years together, to open up our marriage. Or, if I'm being really honest with myself, my husband has allowed me to take a long distance lover; I honestly can't imagine him taking another himself for a long, long time if ever. I'm definitely the...