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Eh - we're pretty much over it at this point. There's still some residual pai and we miss the good times that were there, but we're doing well with US, and we haven't spoken to Anne since that last night at her place when she pulle the 180 on us. We're fine, thanks for the kind words!

First of all, answer or don't, but I'm curious-- how old are you two? I'm guessing very early 20s, if that, probably 17-20. I'm not knocking you in any way, whether I'm right or wrong. It's just that the issues and the questions seem... inexperienced. This matters, in that some advice will be...

Yep - I checked yours too, and a couple of other members that peeked in. :-)

My handle there is Almost_Jaded, Violet's is PerfectViolet. Results so far have been mixed, but I like the site.

Wouldn't know. She refuses to talk to me because "I'm working things out with Michael and the feelings you bring up in me make that difficult so I think we just shouldn't talk right now". :rolleyes:

Sorry for teh lack of updates on this thread; things got going in our thread under life stories. In any event, I'm MUCH better, Violet is well, we're better than we've been in quite some time - even before Anne, actually. I've gone from being hurt and angry and all that crap to really just...

Welcome! Be very careful. As you read around the forums, you'll see that your situation is familiar to many people here. There is a lot of advice already up, check it out.

Welcome!

There is a lot on these boards about situations similar to yours. It's a tough one. I won't pretend to have valuable input as I've been alive only a few years longer than you've been married - lol - but I think that you can find support here. And LR is right; have your husband read these...

In every relationship I've ever had - be it friends, girlfriends, business partners, whatever - it has been understood very quickly what my policy is regarding ultimatums. It is very simple: They who issue the ultimatum, loses it. You hand me a "her or me" ultimatum, and it's her, no...

Tmi! Tmi!

Wow - a lot can change in a few hours. We are stil hurting. Things are not perfect. But they are better. I have been struggling all day with feelings of inadequacy, insecurity, failure - all kind of things. It's been killing me because I am literally the most self-aware and objective person...

I hope it aall works out man, I hope our talk this afternoon helped. We're going out for a drink tonight no matter what. ;)

Except that the lst time I took it, I got a completely different result - ENTJ, lol.

My friend, you and I need to go have a drink together. Our third just pulled some amazingly fucked up bullshit and brought our relationship and frankly a large portion of my self confidence crashing down hard. Every petty, stupid insecurity and feeling of worthlessness and failure that I've...

Joreth's post FTW. :)

Missed a few updates, some were good, some were bad. Violet and I no longer have a triad. Anne is a manipulative, lying bitch. And that's all I have to say about that.

So I don't feel like explaining it right now, but things with Anne just ended HORRIBLY in a very ugly breakup. And now I am experiencing very, very weird emotional dichotomy. I'm going through all the same post-bad-breakup feelings I know so well from my past. But Violet is still here and I...

Yeah - we just went through this. Wait a couple days for us to cool down (us is me and Violet)and we can help a lot, I promise. Your situation is very similar to what ours was (hopefully it doesn't end in teh horrible way ours just did - thuswe need to calm down a bit before trying to help).

We talk, a lot. She told me this thread existed, but I didn't realize what it was or what had been said, lol. We're actually talking about it right now, lol.