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    Who started it?

    I was always poly - I just didn't know it, lol. Violet DEFINITELY made the call in our relationship, and had to convince me it was good and okay. Things have reversed back and forth a few times since then, lol - but she started it, and she has kept it going when I've been ready to dump the...
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    Spreading the love around: does love lessen with more partners?

    I didn't read everything, sorry. But my answer is short and simple, for once... Is the love diluted? No. Quite the opposite. Time is a different matter, completely. There are only so many hours in a day and days in a week. One-on-one time is DEFINITELY diluted, and it takes a lot of getting...
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    Is America really ready for poly?

    I ran into that even on these boards a while back. I was accused of trying to "live out a harem fantasy," and much worse. IRL, I am frequently referred to as a pimp, an exploiter of women, and more. And poly was Violet's idea. It took her quite a while to talk me into it, despite that fact...
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    What's in it for a unicorn?

    Oh, I see the irony, lol, especially from the outside. But in truth it's not quite like that. The "house rules" is a part of their sub contract (I find no end of humor in that term), along with all the rst, hard limits and such. They don't like the idea of being collared and held to their...
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    What's in it for a unicorn?

    Ugh - the submissive thing. This is a HUGE issue in our house right now. Violet wants BDSM to be a lifestyle, not a once in a while thing. Lana wants to be collared with her. They both crave that structure. Adrian was abused by a BF/Dom in the past, and other than a little bedroom play has...
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    Lets start a revolution

    LMAO @ Poly DSLR
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    Lets start a revolution

    I don't take it personally. I'm from a very religious - mormon actually - family that is VERY, VERY politically active. I get what you're saying - probably on a level you don't, lol (no offense) since many family and friends are politicians, lobbyists, journalists, and such on the local...
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    Lets start a revolution

    LOL's IRL. :) Mono - I'm not asking for benefits. I'm asking only that the SAME benefits apply unilaterally. If religion and politics are seperate, why are our relationships - and so many other things - legally defined by stigmas and rules developed almost entirely by religios factions...
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    Lets start a revolution

    In NV, it is entirely possible for me to marry, divorce, and remarry between 6 and 12 times a year, depending on how you read the law. :shrug: The government and other agencies A. - shouldn't be so involved anyway B. - should cater to the peoplel however complex that might be, C. -...
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    What's in it for a unicorn?

    This is my Fiance, Violet, an this is OUR girlfriend, Lana, and this is MY girlfriend, Adrian. Emphasis added I type, not so much verbally, lol. Other times they're fiance, gf#1 and gf#2 (always chronologically). Of course, Adrian chaffes at this; she thinks they should all have the same...
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    Lets start a revolution

    Who said anything about denying monogamous couples anything (other than in jest)? We're talking about allowing poly folk the SAME advantages that "traditional" relationships enjoy. For instance, if Lana stays with us and "marries" us in the current political and legal landscape, it would be...
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    hello

    Hello, and welcome! I read some of your blog, and we'd like to get to know you guys. We live in Vegas, and travel to Provo/Orem and SLC several times a year to visit family and friends, and my son who lives with my ex-in-laws in Lindon and Alpine. We're a FMF triad that seems to find their...
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    uhh ho

    Welcome aboard! I'm new to being a 24/7 Dom, we're just building - slowly - a more 24/7 TPE situation with Violet and Lana. They put together a long list and letter describing what they would like their lives to be like in thi situation and how much it would mean to them to take it outside of...
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    What's in it for a unicorn?

    Ugh - this is us with Adrian. To a "T". Every time we give her something she has been trying to "get", she wants another inch, a mile, it's never enough, because complete equality is a measurable thing to her. It;s like she keeps score. She probably won't be around much longer - for her own...
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    Lets start a revolution

    Frankly, if English isn't your first language, American kids should go to whatever school taught you. Because if not for your several statements to the effect that English isn't your first language, nobody here would have known. Your north american English is better than the vast majority of...
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    Lets start a revolution

    MindfulAgony - I don't believe I've seen your posts before. I like them. I would like to meet you someday, I sense some common energy here. I was inactive here for something like 6 months and almost deleted my account becuase of that kind of stuff. I don't post much these days for the same...
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    Marriage not working out? Lets try poly!

    How very appropriate to find this now. We have a close friend who's marriage was exactly one more CPR repetition away from declaring the ToD. We didn't know her husband at all, just her and her issues with him and the relationship. We watched her cheat briefly. We talked to her a LOT. We...
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    Is our time split unusual?

    Adrian dates/hooks up here & there, the other two are totally uninterested in other men (or women for that matter). Lana may eventually flex her poly wings, but she's nowhere near it right now. Violet has made it perfectly clear that it's me or nobody for her. Adrian needs to chill out & stop...
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    Multi-partner cohabitation

    Violet and I lived together within a couple months of dating seriously; she just spent more and more time at my place, and more and more of her stuff accumulated there. Then her roommates had a blowout and I said, "Screw it, just move in." lol. That was almost exactly 25 months ago. Lana moved...
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    Is our time split unusual?

    Geeze does this thread hit home. This is the single biggest issue in our relationship right now. Basically, Violet monopolizes the unholy hell out of my time, and feels justified in doing so, and the other 2 get the table scraps. And whenever I try to work things differently, there's hell...
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