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Well, I assume the two of you (and anyone who reads this thread, but has not chosen to reply) have poly friends and know people in mono/poly relationships, so if you could poll the ones you know and answer the following questions, that'd be great!

I was brought up in this mono culture, as most of us probably were, so I simply thought we were all poly-minded but living with society's stringent rules. I am just now, at the age of 30, realizing that people don't think the way that I think and that there's actually a word for me, polyamorous...

My fiance and I will talk about this in depth as he processes his thoughts and feelings, but until then, I am curious to get other people's insights, thoughts, etc. When first being introduced to the possibility of a mono/poly relationship, what was your reaction to the thought of another man...

Thanks, Beginninglove! My fiance and I had a huge breakthrough today. He's now (in a Grey's Anatomy, Meredith and Cristina kind of way) my "Person." I've been dealing with a particular guy and the pheromone issue for some time now, and it has been really difficult to work through it on my own...

WE'RE COMMUNICATING!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! He's willing to at least talk about it because he doesn't want to otherwise lose me and he wants me to be happy! Ohhh and I'm soooo happy!!!! And of course, part of me feels guilty for even having him have to go through this with me.

I choose him. At least now, we have an open line of communication.. and maybe we can renegotioate the terms of our relationship at a later time, but for now, and maybe forever.. he'll do just fine.

I see what I'm doing now... I can't run seeking a relationship with a woman when 98% of me is fixed on men. It's not fair to me or her to embrace this 2% because it's the only thing my current relationship will allow. And I can't talk him into polyamory so he'll understand me better because...

He does feel a sense of ownership. He states that, "...as long as you're mine..." when we get into these discussions. He wasn't possessive when we got together. It seems like somewhere along the road, I made him that way.

I would never be with a girl to turn my guy on. That would make me feel equally disgusting. I'm simply saying, I would enter into a relationship with someone that he wouldn't be intimidated by. It would be something new for me but not something I've ever been against. I've never done it...

Thanks everyone. Goodness, this is a frightening ride... We are definitely in dealbreaker territory. I'm praying it ends well (or lasts for many happy years), but so far, not so good. In the past 7 days he has had more honesty than he probably ever though possible, from pheromones to...

Yes, I should have definitely used the words "explore my bicurious thoughts" and not "become bisexual". Forgive me. I would never just play with someone just for the sake of playing or proving a point, but I would be honest with someone every step of the way, as taking on a lady love would be...

Our first open discussion on going poly... I talked to my fiance just moments ago and told him that on my road to self discovery, it would help if he found a girlfriend. He wasn't comfortable with the idea, but was willing to give it a try. Questions and Answers later, he found himself at...

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Let me also state that I am highly susceptible to some men's pheromones. Now and then, rarely, I find a man that pushes me over the edge. My fiance and I have already had that discussion, and again, he didn't understand it, and was livid that another man, by scent (or unscented sense) alone...

Hi, I'm new here. This entire poly thing is new to me, but when I discovered it while googling 'coming to terms with monogamy,' I ran into a poly article that described my fantasy (not sexual) of my fiance and me married, happy, living in our dream house with our kids, his live-in girlfriend...

Hi, I'm Kat.. and I think I'm Poly. For years I've struggled with loving the one I'm with, but feeling emotionally connected to others. After my husband and I divorced, I met my fiance and we discussed having an open relationship. This sounded great to him at the time because the...