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Knowing I'm going to get a lot of answers like "get a hobby" "hang out with friends" etc... I'm still going to ask the question. When your live-in partner is staying the night at his other partner's house, how do you cope? Background: My husband died just over 2 years ago. Even when my...

Grrrrrrrrrr lost a long-ish post. Short version: Tonight they're spending the night at her house. Tomorrow I"m supposed to spend the night at her house. Friday she's supposed to spend the night at our house. I'm anxious about it - I had to take my dog to obedience training and so I left...

I thought I had a post about last night in here - I can't find it so... meh. Basically we spent 5 hours on the phone last night talking and airing out some of the issues that have been hurting us both. I'm working on just letting it happen, going with the "just do it" philosophy. It worked...

There is a "God" and I'm not it.... but seriously.. I am Wiccan. Mother Earth, Nature Incarnate, the Goddess. She is there, guiding me.

Doing pretty good today. Azorkane is sleeping (he's on nightshift) Amber is at work (she's on dayshift) My son, his lady and my grandson are here visiting. Today we're all heading down to see my sisters for a family dinner. My job ends in 3 1/2 weeks and I'm SO freaking excited about that...

We're still working through issues. Last night he posted an amazing post on Facebook which just warmed my heart. ok I was going to save this one for last. but I cant cuz latly someone very important to my life, my kids and my future has been feeling off. so I have to let this out. I am so...

Oh Alycat... you are not alone. I'm just over 26 months out. Poly is hard. It's harder when you're actively going through grief. And for ME, grief was harder the 2nd year - the protective layer of numbness was gone and I was suddenly having to deal with emotions and feelings without the...

We've been fortunate in finding a woman who's interested in dating both of us. it started as her interested in him, and then as we got to know each other... feelings are developing between her and I. But as far as she's concerned... we're not in a "relationship" ... yet. Mostly because she...

How does one manage time when there's very little of it? He needs time with her. I need time with him. She and I need time together. AND we need time with all three of us. She's very much a person who likes her alone time. He's a person who needs his alone time. We have 5 kids at home...

I have been doing a lot of work around co-dependency. I know I've got co-dependent issues. I identify with everything on an "Are you co-dependant" checklist. And as I work through them... as I make changes... as I learn to let go... things are getting SO much better. I'm happier, he's...

My life is stupidly busy. I work for the Forest Service and there's wildfires all around. Amber is spending about half the time at our house - I've made it very clear that I need/value time with Azorkane alone - that they need time alone, that she and I need time alone, and that it all needs...

What LR said. When my husband was sick - everything else stopped. Everything. Medical needs COME FIRST. End of story.

Azorkane and I had a discussion the other day about BDSM activities... vs sex. In his mind - they are on the same playing field. In mine - they aren't. There are certain things I'll allow just about anyone do to my body (flogging, scratching) But stuff that's more "sacred" - I don't offer...

I am in a long term committed relationship with Azorkane. He is "dating" (for lack of a better word) Amber. Amber spends a lot of time at our house and she and I have become close. So I guess we're kinda in a triad - no one is having sex with Amber - but we'd all like to (waiting on tests)...

It's been a few weeks - we spend a lot of time with Amber, and we're all developing a great friendship. The night before an incredibly emotional day for me, she spent the night and we all ended up in a tangled, sweaty mess... It was awesome. She and I spend time alone, he spends time with...

I'm going to start by saying right off the bat that this is a *bad week* emotionally for me. Really bad. Probably should have taken Thursday off bad. However. Azorkane has had a waning libido over the last 6 months or so. He attributed it to stress. There was a LOT of stress in our...

I love curvy women too. I love the softness of the skin, the roundness of the hips and boobs, the way everything feels when we *mesh* together. I see not the flaws in other women, but the beauty and the sexiness and the amazing personalities. @LovingRadience - I'm not hiding. Just dont'...

When Azorkane and I first got back in contact - I said to him - "yanno I'm not as skinny as I was 20 years ago, right?" I outweighed my 20 year old self by 100lbs. Currently in the process of finding that skinny girl again - because I want to be healthy - not because I want to be skinny -...

Yes, and no. I am, but I'm not, if that makes sense? The competition isn't with her - it's with myself - the myself that was 20 years ago when we were first together. He loves me and finds me sexxy. I know this. But *I* don't love my body - and I've gained about 10 lbs in the last...

What she said ^^^ Azorkane and I had that conversation last night - we were discussing him staying over at Amber's last night and I said I'd have a problem with it - not because he was staying there - but because she's the "vacation" place - she doesn't have to deal with the bills and the kids...