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That was disappointing So I talked to my hubby tonight to see where he was with everything and he said that he sees where I'm coming from but that he's still not okay with being fully open. I told him that was fine as he's entitled to feel how he feels and to be happy just as I am. I then told...

No you're statement was okay. In fact, I need this kick in the pants by all of you to stand up for myself finally. He claims he tried being poly with an ex, but it was based on so much lying and deceit that I consider her to be a cheater poorly attempting to masquerade in polyamory clothing. He...

So I sat him down tonight and talked to him. I told him in no uncertain terms that I deserve to be happy and part of that is to no longer deny that I am polyamorous. I told him that he needs to either explore this with me or we need to part and although I didn't expect an answer from him today...

Thank you for the replies everyone. To answer a few questions , I originally agreed to this because I was happy, very happy in fact, seeing him with another guy. Initially I was a little jealous because I felt like I couldn't give him everything he wanted sexually, but as time went on that faded...

A little background about me. My husband and I are in a semi-closed relationship where he has agreed that we can have lovers as long as they are of the same-sex. My husband who is bi-curious has taken advantage of this arrangement with at least 4 other lovers (one of which was without my...

Ah yes, the ol' double standard. I'm dealing with this with my husband now who is bi and has yet another male lover (which I love). He says it's okay for me to have a girlfriend, even fall in love with her, but doesn't even want to talk about me or us having a boyfriend. Honestly my only advice...

Thanks for the reply. I see why my boyfriend thinks why his idea is feasible. OG works a ton, averaging probably 60 or more hours a week, so he thinks that as long as his sexual needs are being fulfilled he won't need or want someone else. The part he's missing out on is the fact that it's not...

Ivolution thanks for the thought out reply. The thing is though, I don't want them both for security. But I have alot of love inside me and know I'm able to love more than one person at a time, and it makes me happy. Now will that same vision make either my boyfriend or our new guy happy? I...

Lots of replies since I last wrote on here I see. Anyway, I did tell my boyfriend that he was crazy to expect OG to stay not see anyone else while they are together. I haven't really talked to him about us starting a relationship though, since I told him before we met OG that I was fine with him...

Haha no he's not. He does have lingering issues from his previous relationship where his ex girlfriend cheated on him with anything that moved. So I get him being afraid I might leave, although if I wanted to do that I could've done it already. With that said, I told him when we first got...

Well for me, poly dating seems to be easier if your a girl in my experience. For some reason if you tell someone you're poly and you're a guy they automatically think you're full of it. But if a woman says it, people seem to be more willing to consider that you're telling the truth. Anyway, we...

Baby Steps Talked to BF last night and he's still pushing for what I can only describe as a closed polyfi V, with an open hinge. Aye! He's becoming increasingly annoyed that OG and I talk alot to each other, as he says OG doesn't seem to be as interested in talking to him. But they're both shy...

Thanks for the link. OG is out of town right now on business, but when he gets back I think we should all get together and figure out what will work best for everyone and make everyone happy.

Thank you for the responses everyone. I know I do need to talk to him about everything, because I don't know where he got some of these new ideas from. They weren't run by me or the new guy at that. You hit the nail right on the head with this! I was initially hoping for it to be just a closed...

No this is what initially going to happen. My boyfriend and the new guy would sleep together and the new guy and I would be friends and nothing more. The only time I would join in would be to watch them or have my boyfriend have sex with me while he got fucked by the other guy, or let the other...

I asked my boyfriend if he would consider having a relationship with the guy we've been talking to, and whom he wants to be his friend with benefits. His response? A resounding no. But, then here's the kicker. He wants the guy to be only with him sexually. I told him that he can't expect him to...

So where shall I begin. I guess at the beginning of what started all of this. Four years ago at the tender age of 18, I had just entered college. I had just gotten out of my first relationship which ended with my ex going to jail and me having no clue where he was for 4 months. Anyway, I was in...

If it were me, I'd tell him that if it isn't such a big deal, he should have no problem telling his wife about how he feels for you. Not should he have a problem telling her that he wants to take your relationship to another level. And distance my ass! I've met two people who used that line on...

This was exactly what I was thinking. Now I don't have any experience really with a poly relationship, as I'm still working that all out for myself at the moment. But I know that people do this all the time in all types of relationships when they feel threatened. My best friend does it when I...

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