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I've finally had a moment to myself in the wee hours of the morning and I have downloaded this book and I am already on chapter 2. Thank you for the thoughtful suggestions 😊

Evie, sorry I missed the first part of your response. I'm not exactly clear on how my husband and his gf came to the agreement about how often they see each other. My husband just shared with me that the agreement between them was that he would not communicate with her whilst he was with me...

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Hi!! My Metamour asked my husband to leave work to be with her...which he didn't do, but i found the request to be a little shady. My husband created visitation times he felt comfortable with, which I agreed to. They see each other several times during the week and she's now pushing for time...

Hi Kevin!! That article felt like it was written from my own personal experiences. I read it together with my husband and he asked, when was this written? Yesterday?? We both really identified with it. Thank you for the link and yes please, if you've got articles on jealousy, I'd be very eager...

My husband isn't a reader, so I kind of forced him to read an article and his secondary is quite well versed in polyam from years of practice. She's been guiding him. He's actually doing pretty well adjusting, certainly he's been better at this than I have been. I am surprised 😮and oddly a...

Hi Dingedheart, I've got a couple of books on the subject that I've read, I've read articles and talked with friends who've been in the lifestyle for years. I handled the infidelity of our past 200% better than his secondary relationship. I totally thought I was ready for this. I'm the one...

That is a great suggestion to look into why he wanted that rule established in the first place. I am not sure what motivated him to come up with the rule, but I think he's realized it is unrealistic for him, but I agreed to it to give him peace of mind because it was seemingly very important...

That is something I will have to come to terms with. (Some flavor of love is going to develop) I don't argue the validity of your statement...it was just that it was his rule and he broke it. I think that is part of what was so painful. And I am certainly on your wave of thought...I am...

It felt like cheating to me...with his current girlfriend. He made the rule that we would participate in enm, no love, no strong emotional attachment, which I agreed to, only to learn they're telling each other "I love you" which...totally was against HIS rule. It was a punch in the gut to...

Hello Magdlyn, Yes, there was infidelity on both sides prior to deciding to become polyam. And my H has broke agreements since becoming poly, which I have chalked up to growing pains, and have faith as our communication grows, we will raise ourselves up to a better place. Thank you for saying...

Hello...extremely new to polyam. (Less than 6 months) I am very comfortable having multiple lovers. I have my husband and one lover and I enjoy the arrangement very much. What I am struggling with is sharing my spouse. Yes, I recognize the double standard...yes I realize how unfair this is to...

I'm happy you jumped into one of my conversations 😊

T I will take your advice and do that!! 🙂 Thank you!

I have certainly heard of temple prostitutes...I find history fascinating. Its too bad a lot of it is watered-down and I'm looking forward to reading it!! 🙂 Thank you again for your thoughtful reply.

Man...Adam, thank you for the invitation to pour my heart out. ❤ I am struggling with my husband's secondary...but as I started writing my post abiut the topic, I began realizing I was actually harboring a lot of anger at my husband for past issues and I now think I may be redirecting my anger...

Okay...back from Google. Definitely not scattershot. IMO.

Thank you for the reply. It's nice to receive an exchange that is clearly communicated. I'm looking forward to getting to know people here too and learning much on the topic of polyamory. I find it odd that I'm being accused of being a troll just for asking for information on a topic that was...

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