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Boundaries are not rules. You can't use them interchangeably. Also, there is (was?) a third person involved who had no say in these rules. You don't need rules if you're already acting this way. If you need rules to live by, then you're (edit: attempting to force) someone to do something...

"A lot of rules" sounds like there is a lot of insecurities in this relationship. When you try and force someone else to do or act in a certain way, you are not addressing your emotional or other issues. Also... It doesn't sound like I'm in the minority here but none of these rules are...

This is her job, not relationships on the side. Your fears and insecurities are things you need to face and learn to overcome. Your girlfriend can only do so much to help; at the end of the day, you need to do a lot of the work yourself. If your fear is that having other people available...

To kdt26417 - Thank you for the kind words. I am internalizing a lot but we've talked a bit since and it's helped. It's also helped for me to stop viewing this as a break up and more as a transition. My meta seems happier and our relationship has improved recently, which is nice, and we're all...

Quick recap: I am (was?) in a v-triad with my girlfriend as the hinge between me and my meta (her wife). My girlfriend and her wife live together; I am from another state but I come to visit for about a month at a time. My girlfriend and her wife have been having relationship issues for a while...

Do you also tell people in abusive relationships that they can get out at any time and they're the cause of the abuse / they brought it on themselves? What about people who were on the receiving end of bullying? They did something to provoke the bully? From the words you're saying, it's obvious...

One thing I've always thought polyamory embraced was the realization that it's unrealistic for one person to be able to offer everything for another person. So with that said, it would never be possible to find "the one", because they realistically don't exist. With ethical non-monogamy, you can...

Hello everyone! I found this board a little over a month ago (it was linked to me from the Poly board on reddit) and I've been lurking ever since. I finally got the courage to create an account so now I can lurk with an account ;) After being in a monogamous marriage for close to 7 years that...