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I like the idea of a DADT policy. Sounds good to me. And I agree with the discretion. It's funny how people can cheat all the time and society just overlooks it, but an arrangement like mine has people thinking they can say things. If I was out with BF and people knew I was married it wouldn't...

How do you deal with closed minded people? I am new to this and last night when a guy at the bar heard friend introduce me to someone else as his girlfriend and then my husband he was very closed minded even though the conversation did not involve rude guy at all. My husband and friend both...

We have had numerous talks since I started this and we have met up with friend twice. Ironically no sex either time. We just hung out, drank, and had fun. I was sitting on friends lap and stuff most of the time. It was like going out with a boyfriend, except husband was there too. Friend is now...

I know I suck at telling him no. But you are right. When he gets home from work in the morning it's time to put everything out in the open. I can't do casual.

No he asked me. He said is it okay if I give him your number and I was all we talked yesterday about how that might not be a good idea but I don't mind talking to him. He was like I don't think it's a big deal you can text him.

Thanks hun. Friend hadn't had my number but he just gave it to him so friend can text me. Wth am I supposed to think about that? I feel like he is setting me up for failure and heartbreak.

I'm just glad I'm not the only one who sees it like that. I had two boyfriends at the same time in high school. One knew about the other but the other didn't know. I really enjoyed it except the secrecy of it. I never knew that it was actually an option until husband started talking to me about...

I don't know. I'm so confused right now. I wish I had never learned about poly. If my options are only him or not him I would chose him every time because I can't imagine my life without him. Problem is he gives me false hope. Even after our conversation yesterday, today:confused: he told me...

He's not ok with casual on his side and poly on mine. He heard all my points but he cannot grasp his mind around how if I fell for someone else it wouldn't change my feelings for him. Love multiplies, it doesn't divide. But he doesn't understand that.

I get what you were saying now. And no he's not okay with that either.

I'm a huge Rocky Horror fan. I always thought I was a Colombia or Magenta but the more I figure out about myself the more I know I'm a Janet, kinda lost in everything but curious to figure out who I truly am deep down and hungry for me.

You make some valid points but I don't see it as deception. Husband and I talked before anything happened. He suggested we try this with friend. I agreed. After I agreed husband asked why because he knows I don't do random. I explained to him how I think friend is hot and fun, and I've had a...

Thank you for all your advice. I know I'm an idiot who doesn't listen to reason. I always play the what if this actually worked the way I want it to scenario in my mind. Stupid I know because it never happens like that.

I understand all of that. And truthfully it's his friend not mine, well at least that's how it started. I know I need to rid myself of the situation but I know if I do then he (husband) will flip out. As much as I hate to admit it you are correct that husband is "sitting behind the steering...

Kinda my thoughts exactly. I feel like he is tangling something in front of me that I want but it's just beyond my reach. He has done this before. He gave me a hall pass a few years ago and then went crazy and we argued for a month after I used said hall pass. I told him yesterday that this is...

I think my husband is clueless where emotions are concerned. We had a heart to heart yesterday. I told him how I feel and what I think. I explained I want poly and he asked lots of questions about different things. At the end of our conversation he told me how he doesn't think he could ever be...

Thanks.

Thanks for your input. I know you are right. I have some serious thinking to do. I can't imagine my life without him, yet ironically I can't imagine life with just him. Most wouldn't understand that but I'm sure some here will. I need to evaluate everything and have a serious conversation with...

The problem is I would be okay with him doing that but he wouldn't be okay with what I want. I had an emotional affair (strictly online) a few years ago. Now he can't handle emotional involvement. He also has to know every detail about everything so if I were to date someone he would want to...

I know you are right. I have become interested in the threesome idea but I can't do random or casual. And random and casual is what my husband wants. I'm just going to have to talk to him and tell him how I really feel. I knew what I needed to do, guess I was just hoping there was another option.