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I have to say this is an awesome thread! I can see myself in both genders represented, and only now am I learning the importance of setting boundaries for myself. Just now! It wasn't something that Mum and Dad passed on and I could never understand why I wasn't having my needs met. Then came...

Flower you can feel the excitement, I'm excited for you! (Oh yeah, turn up the music and dance around in your underwear kind of thing!) I also just recently tripped over Poly....alright leaped and landed face first. I can now proudly say I'm walking about with my scratches and scabs and a smile...

Great thread Miriam! Looking back, I found that guilt with touching myself may have been implanted from the womb. If you did it, you didn't talk about it and you sure as hell didn't discuss it. I remember feeling like I was really doing something wrong and going to one of my sisters and her...

Well, as I learned from some really great feedback for myself, put the self-whipping stick away. You don't need it anymore. It serves no purpose, it's non-productive, and it brings no clarity. Being Polyamorous, for me, has meant that I've really had to tune into what I wanted for myself and...

You know Rooster, I think it was so awesome that you talked about this on the forum, so really wanted to give you respect for that. When it comes to sexuality, I have no problem advocating for myself, it's when I have to speak for my emotions that it gets sticky. (See what I did there?) I...

Kevin, Thank you. I read the article. I'm finding I'm okay with that part of the equation, or may be haven't had to deal with any stigma from society yet. I've always lived on the fringes anyway, so I'm not overly bothered by that judgement. The only one I felt necessary to tell in my family...

Oh woman! You have the greatest way with words! God, I wish this community was down the road at the local pub instead of scattered across the world! I feel like I'm on the edge of the old person moving to the new person and I'm just holding out my hand, waiting for my husband to take those...

Magdlyn, The culture drives me a little nuts. I connect deeply with music and there is so much that revolves around monogamy and now it's larger than life when I listen. I find myself leaning towards the power music like Halestorm I am the fire, kind of thing. I think my whole upbringing was...

Kevin, I did go through your blog and have much empathy for what you went through. Part of me feels lucky that my primary is trying and he is trying but he is struggling. I don't expect this to be easy when there are damaged personalities. We both went through Polysecure, I find I can relate to...

Rooster, I do see that pattern on some, where the woman wants to explore women. I understand this. I wonder if it's the mindset that two women can't link romantically? That it is all about sexual experience? I know, that's bullshit. In all honesty, I have not read a story where a couple was on...

Magdyln. I appreciate that. Some experiences don't go down well and I knew I'd have to hear the good with the bad. I'm just hoping that my situation can end good. There is so much potential for good, that's why it sucks to feel so bad and shaky. I find myself coming out of the monogamy ring...

I'm hoping to put together a discussion for those who told their partners they wanted to be Poly, and those who had to listen. I'm hoping that you would consider sharing how it was for you to tell or hear and how you go forward from there. What is/has worked for you to improve your...

Thank you both! It's a person thing, I guess. I didn't even expect to say it. I had triggers. I'm sure part of me was mulling it over. It was a poly bomb, and I regret that, but now I can't change it. There is no backspace button on this one. I've been tripping all over the place, doing things...

Hey there Expatamor! I'd love to know your side of things. How are you dealing? What helps you and what is getting in your way? Why did you find it so difficult to hear? Are the discussions getting easier for you? Is it okay for me to pick your brain? I think the worst part is the struggle of...

I'm so with you on this-- where you meet someone and you feel something, and then the guilt comes, and the questions come, and somewhere inside you find you aren't happy. You've been ignoring those inner cues telling you to pay attention. I am a big introvert. One day I was sitting at the...

Well, and those that are green like you. hahahah I mean new to this.

Well, not so well. Meditation is best for me at night. I've been brain fried and find myself falling asleep while sitting in front of my altar. I will rectify tonight. Lately it's just been working on breathing and centering and THAT hasn't gone so well. I'm highly sensitive to scent and sound...

Thank you Alluvion!

Needless to say, I have directed my partner to this thread. I am just floored by the similarities in what you've said and what I've heard from him. I thank you so very much for being so open to your experience. It's given me hope.

Hi there Magdlyn! I also tried Wiccan for awhile, but for me, it felt like I was trading in gods. (I was raised a Catholic) It just didn't work for me. I find I collect a mishmash of ideas from different religions or cultures. Cultural anthropology and world religions were some of my favorite...