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    What should I do?

    I'm sorry this is happening. It sounds like a really stressful situation.
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    Trouble with Primary- Where do I draw the line and where do I leave?

    I honestly am trying to figure out how to talk to his therapist and try and cover some of this just because, I know he said he was going to talk to him, but now I don't know if I can trust what he tells him right now. My husband said it was a wake up call and he's realizing how unstable he...
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    Trouble with Primary- Where do I draw the line and where do I leave?

    Honestly? I think it's a bit of both, but I think he lies to himself first and becomes so defensive that he really believes these things. And the rest of the lying is him covering his own ass. What he believed was said, was actually him cutting them off and reacting to what he heard. "You...
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    Trouble with Primary- Where do I draw the line and where do I leave?

    *sorry about this, just wanted to touch base again for those of you that are concerned or want to know* So, my husband spent yesterday afternoon ranting about how the conversation with my BF and meta went. Saying my meta got hostile, my BF didn't speak and ducked his head. He got stuck on a...
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    Trouble with Primary- Where do I draw the line and where do I leave?

    After being in therapy for a while, he has gradually become more self aware. Last night he admitted that he had a back fall the other night in the scenario I described and did apologize, but that doesn't change or undo the damage he's done to me emotionally when he can't control it in the...
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    Trouble with Primary- Where do I draw the line and where do I leave?

    I honestly don't believe that he would ever choke me or lay his hands on me in that way. He hasn't in the 5 years we've been together, nor has he hit or choked a woman. The closest he came to any of that was bear hugging me from behind to restrain me. But even that came at a really unnecessary...
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    Trouble with Primary- Where do I draw the line and where do I leave?

    He's been in therapy for several months now trying to learn how to manage his anxiety. Our fights have tapered off, but when they do happen, it's takes running in circles with him to get him to realize how damaging and abusive some of the things he says is. He's at least reached a point where...
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    Trouble with Primary- Where do I draw the line and where do I leave?

    *Im sorry about the novel but I'm in a fucking crisis right now and I have no idea what to do.* So my husband and I have been struggling financially and needing new jobs. I have a job, but it's a shit job leading nowhere and I'm miserable. I've discovered the direction I want to go in and I've...
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    First big fight with metamor.

    I need this thread closed and deleted please. As well as my Live-in Poly Family thread. I messaged a moderator but haven't heard back.
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    The "How Are You Doing" Thread (redux)

    :( I'm so sorry.
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    The "How Are You Doing" Thread (redux)

    I am super incredibly stressed right now because of poly issues and I have no idea how to resolve this. I feel like I have the only solution figured out but it's only going to take time to rebuild this trust.
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    First big fight with metamor.

    I appreciate your response, unfortunately this has evolved into a greater issue because it seems I've been deceived to a greater extent than what I originally knew. I've been debating whether to post it, I've just been trying to manage my reaction today.
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    First big fight with metamor.

    Our agreement is that we simply disclose our interest once it occurs and allow us to become familiar with a new sexual interest. Allow that trust to have a chance to build. This is the only real "approval" method we go through. We don't even really have to like the other person, that friendship...
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    First big fight with metamor.

    I need to know if another party is being considered. If for no other reason but for health concerns. we've all agreed to talk thoroughly about it before even considering it. When the threesome thing was brought up before, I was told it would be dropped right now. That was about a month ago. Now...
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    First big fight with metamor.

    I would much rather know than not know. Not knowing what's going on is really the main thing that's caused all this.
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    First big fight with metamor.

    As far as it not being a priority to them, this is where I got confused. When I approached the subject with Pixie, she's made it clear she's trying to seek helping them fulfill their own desires, not hers. This seems a little off because both my guys have told ME it's not really a thing for...
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    First big fight with metamor.

    Zed told me as soon as he found out. He was also kind of left in the dark because he asked Pixie not to say anything.
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    First big fight with metamor.

    My reaction was mainly based on the fact that Pixie DID say she wanted to come to me about these sorts of things. Especially with us being new in this. When she approached Blondie about this it was after Zed had asked her NOT to. Another part of my reaction was when Pixie told her cousin "she...
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    First big fight with metamor.

    I feel like I'm always coming here with issues, but this one was a pretty big one considering it's the first major fight I've had with my metamor. I just need to make sure that I'm being fair and have a right to be upset in this instance. Pixie has batted around the prospect of threesomes for a...
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    The "How Are You Doing" Thread (redux)

    I'm in a really really bad headspace today and I have no idea what to do about it. Like verge of mental breakdown level of bad and I have no idea how to deal.
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