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I'm getting whiplash. So it turns out my SO sent a private message to Pina, at the outset of our communications with Pina. Something that Pina did not reveal to me until this morning. Apparently the PM mentions how my SO is really not into this, but she's only doing it because she loves me, she...

A lot! Thanks

Just read about NRE. This isn't that. This is about being prepared based on old RE experiences.

Thanks Dr, we're all on the same page regarding communication. That's why I'd like to have all rules out on the table, and not as bombs on a minefield.

Can the more experienced polys share their advice on creating rules for their poly relationships? Including any rules or guidelines that you have made for your own relationships? I am getting close to forming my first poly relationship and would like to have some foresight before getting into...

Update for October 28th, 2012: I'll try and fill in some details.... WHERE WE ARE NOW: We are still together, though it's under new terms, as a new kind of relationship. and... We've found a girl who wants to live with us. She'll be staying with us for 6 days as a trial. A necessary step since...

My SO, has some how warmed up to things, and there have been a lot of fast developments happening... At this point: 1) We've agreed that I can be free to connect with girls when I'm out, go on one date per week, and enjoy one 24 hour "date" per month. 2) And we are now "interviewing" girls for...

A lot of tiny seemingly insignificant experiences, thoughts, and conversations, have transpired and I haven't had a chance to write, and right now I'm heading off to the beach with some girls, but I at least wanted to notate that this morning I was taking a shower with my SO and I said: "come on...

I am in the US right now running some errands. SCHEDULED THREESOME Ok so, before I left, we scheduled to have a threesome. TWO DAYS BEFORE But two days before that, my SO wanted to go out to a nightclub, however I was a bit tired, so I let her go with our GF...I told her she can do whatever...

Completely, it's just fallen under the category of "where do I begin?" :)

Right, I'm saying the fact that he is with them without sex shows it's more than sex. Whether it's love, the second point I mentioned goes towards that. I think even if you find someone disposable, it could still be love. That could just be the way you setup your boundaries. Thick skinned or...

It is interesting from an anthropological point of view to see just how much thread-jacking the normal public discourse causes. I feel like there is a whole other subject going on about mockery and moderation and civil behavior, when I just wanted to read about opinions on Hugh Hefner. Ah well...

I can already see the usefulness and need for having a lifestory blog here, because I intend to go the distance, however I am admittedly at the very cusp of my journey. Thoughts and events are bubbling to the surface, as I grow, or "open up", as a possibly Poly person, and I think it would be...

You know what, I am getting to the point that maybe I am too. But I'm heading out the door (snorkeling at the reef beckons), so I'll explore this when I come back. I really feel I am a Polyamorist, just that I am not setup to be egalitarian like most working women working man relationships.

I know what you mean, but I don't really think so. And I mean that from a place of considering what you said from the outside looking in. I grew up in Orange County the son of a widowed mother, with one sister. After mom remarried when I was 8, that brought in two step-sisters. I learned to...

Oh my goodness. You really think I am just a troll like that? This has been a serious discussion from the get go. (however that was funny! lol) ;)

Not at all. There's something about you that has gotten you to the point of getting me all wrong. You have jumped to a judgement about me too soon. I can tell you honestly, you have got me wrong. From my heart, what you describe is not at all my motivation for being here, posting this thread, or...

There has been no deliberate cherry picking going on here. I even take the time to respond to the most useless of your responses. Your "cherry picking" defense is just a result of insecurities about your words not getting any attention. But that is not deliberate on my, or any others parts (as...

I don't think it's all that uncommon for relationships, marriages, to be in that structure. Where if the provider is feeling unappreciated they eventually must change things out of that discord. And there are millions of relationships across the nation of the United States alone, where one...

Do you think it's better for people to presumptuously call another a supremacist under the guise of "if so"? NYC didn't even wait to get an answer back about whether or not I meant "being the 'cultured westerner' who would save them from themselves". She/He just launched into his/her presumption...