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I do enjoy discussing with you. And I'm curious... Are there Poly people that don't understand the Mono mindset/wiring/way? Because personally I found Poly by passing through Mono. But I suppose a person could be cultured Poly from childhood and Mono would seem very strange to them, and so I...

Precisely. Excellent. I'm glad to hear that. Absolutely. I was too. But I believe I have always had a mindset which is malleable and open. And I'm getting to the point that the people who have a "mono block" are probably the one's that appear to have staked their self-esteem in their beliefs and...

I'm pretty positive it's more than that for me. I mean how does one know if they are "poly" versus a "player"/"swinger"? When does a player/swinger enter the myriad of possible relationship configurations or mindsets that are found in the universe of Poly? To me it's about that I want to become...

Totally. It's all very viscous right now. However, if I had free reign to choose I feel best with living with at least two girls. Guys I know don't like living with girls, they prefer to play with them and not let them mess with their feng shui. That difference in sentiment right there is what...

I think you are projecting the fact that you understand poly, into your viewpoint, of, what a mono can understand.

Well that definitely goes towards what I'm saying. It's a different understanding of how to relate to other humans. A way which mono's have a hard time understanding using their own understanding. I think you are definitely explaining a different understanding: telling a mono that it's the same...

Outside for sure. But of course I'm sure even Mono's inside still struggle with grasping Poly. I think they see it as a different belief set, but really it's much stronger than that IMpvO (In my poly virgin opinion). It's easy to accept or tolerate another belief set, like for instance Jews...

Very interested in hearing the community responses to this post. I am in a similar situation, however I am the one looking outward to other relationships and my wife is the one who would be deeply curious as to the answers here. Listening...

I think the biggest fear/hurdle/rub in getting a Mono to understand Poly is to stop comparing the two. Poly works, and creates happiness, intrinsic to it's "poly ways", not in any way intrinsic to "mono ways". And so Mono's have the mental block/hurdle of understanding how "poly ways" create...

I wish that the complications that arose from teh differences between people could be as simple as "I wish I could get her/him/them to think the way I think." But I think what I really was hoping people to help out with here, is ideas for compromise. That is what we're hoping to hear. Other...

No, I don't come across that way with her. I can't. She is mostly spanish speaking. Every word is carefully chosen and if needed translated or said in different ways. I was just connecting the dots for you guys. As long winded as the original post was, it's definitely abbreviated. I was just...

Haha, alright. Absolutely. Attraction. Temptation. If I was single I would set it up and master it. I'm fortunate enough to have had the experiences in life to be able to handle women. I am confident I can handle those moments. I have the tools. Hell worst case scenario, tell them to go...

Thanks for the response NYC, but no, I am not talking about a Den Of Girls. That has been taken out of context a couple times here now. The "Den of Girls" was an example of what could be done where I live because of the situation on this island (it's a long winded social and economic discussion...

Well, in my heart I know I'd most enjoy living with 3 girls while we(the pod of 4) see and have fun with more. I'm a very sharing person, it approaches neurotic but I guess a lot of poly people are like that and it's just a "neurotic" stigma I have to come to terms with as a poly-wired person. I...

You know that sounds really sensible. Thank you. And I'm glad I posted such a thorough post so that you could be sensitive to something that was probably only a "texture" to the real problem. I will see where that gets me(us)..."Pause", until things are stable again. Great point!

I think you should at least give her a bonus point for talking to you about what she did. That was cool.

"What ideas for compromise can she(mono) and I(poly) come to?" Hi, I've got a huge problem at home, that for you guys probably will seem like pretty small fry as far as poly/mono dilemmas go (because I'm not asking for another person to move in with us). I'm new to understanding poly and I...