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Do you think he will change? Maybe it's worth seeing a couples counselor to sort it out, but I'd try to find one that is not predjudiced against polyamory. It must be frustrating for you. You are trying to set up guidlines that you can both agree on. If you think he'll come around, it's worth...

erin, i stayed in an unhappy marriage for 5 years too long. my children were miserable and made me feel very guilty. the only way i was able to leave was to have money to get my own place, which mean i had to save money. then i started looking at places to live. the ideaswere there for years...

sounds like you are the person in the middle. but, you're not responsible if one of them doesn't want to be intmate with the other. i'm not 100% sure i'm reading the situation correctly. but, yes, just be honest with your own feelings and encourage them to do the same. time will tell with this...

the friendship w/ my metamour has strengthened when she agreed to share her husband with me. we are close, and it feels...strange to me, but good. my own sisters are far, emotionally. thanks for giving me the chance to appreciate her. we should have a day just for them!

thanks for replies. doing some research. using words now. mentally getting myself into it. enjoy ur adventures!

potential partner is into things that i have no experience with. it's even hard for me to write, a little bit, and i'm not really shy. but, ok. like femdom..never heard of term b4...i don't know if i can do that. i wd possibly try. just feeling ambivilant, i know i will wind up doing what i'm...

so, her husband, your boyfriend, does not want her to have another man, but its okay for him to have you? Is that right? yes, that's right. i have been trying to discuss w/ him. i was thinking he'd come around. and now, bcz he hasn't...well she's been cheating for a whole year! i don't like...

when i told my metamour "he better not have stds". she laughed and said that he didn't. it's the laughing that pissed me off. i told her i didn't think it was funny.

tnx fidelia. i feel better having talked about it here.

hi, welcome to the forum

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i'm so sorry that you are hurt right now. it really sucks, breaking up with someone that you are crazy about. i hope that you can find some peace very soon. here is a big virtual hug.

hi! congrats on the pregnancy. i grew up in yonkers. so hello from one fellow nyer to another. welcome to this forum.

sounds like you do love your wife. i wouldn't push her too hard. i'm not really sure what to say, except that, mb she needs to feel that she's #1. to her, perhaps the fact that you are so urgent to have another woman to swing with or be poly with, to her feels like a slight, that she's just not...

i've been discussing this very topic w/ my bf..who coincidentally, won't let his wife have another, but ok for him. fuck that. i wouldn't stand for it. but, he also says all men are pigs. i find this sad...bcz, i grew up hearing this from my mother. and my therapist, well when i told her that...

Thanks for sharing that. I really enjoyed #3, the relationship as a living breathing thing, playful. I never looked at it like that. Very cool.

how can you get you back? i'd first congratulate yourself on not moving closer and assessing the situation well. he's lucky to have you as a friend. then, i'd talk to him less, but check-up as much as you can, w/out feeling upset. hope it works out for him. but, if he does go to counseling...

hi gwendolyn, sorry that your feelings are hurt. mb u should focus on how you were there for eachother during the rough times of break-up. i would let it rest and accept it. i mean, how can you really force someone to hang-out with you? it is what it is, sorry for the cliche'. i'd defiantely...

sorry one more thing...now i don't know this fucking guy from adam. the guy she's been fucking. how do i know he isn't having sex w/ another woman, isn't diseased. i'm pissed off when i think about this. i almost feel like pulling out of what was a good thing. fucking a.

i just found out in confidence from my close friend & wife of my boyfriend that she is having affair. i mentioned on here b4 that it is a double standard and he wouldn't agree to let her have another lover. little did i know that she already have one. i had been talking to my boyfriend about...