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Understood. This is clearly not a problem for this forum. Farewell.

An insightful reply. You are right about my constant search for safety, as galling as that is to admit. I hate being a slave to fears of the past. At this point, though, I am exhausted from trying to overcome those fears. I was recently prescribed an anxiolytic, an anti-psychotic, and an...

Some of you may remember my recent inquiry and the subsequent discussion involving my feelings for a girl, Robin. A quick summation: I have been with Lee for 9 years. We have been married since 2007. I have only ever been monogamous, though I have never been comfortable with monogamy. About 4...

My wife says she feels relieved. She still plans to read up on poly. She says it wasn't just that I was having thoughts about someone else, but that she doesn't think R would've been right for her. I'm still crushing, of course. I still have strong feelings for R. I'm telling myself that...

Well, I believe that I've come to a decision. I'm not going to pursue a relationship with R. It just isn't a good idea. I'm going to continue reading and learning about poly though! Maybe my wife and I will end up expanding our marriage into a poly relationship. Maybe not. Either way, you...

Thanks, everyone! What you've said has been both helpful and challenging. But that isn't an indictment! I know that I am facing a challenge. I have read and am in the process of continuing to read everything that you have suggested. My wife has agreed to read these pieces as well. I'm not...

@Monovcphg: I had another brief talk with my wife about polyamory. We didn't stay on the subject long, because it's very stressful to talk about. I will try and broach the subject again and to get to the reason for her discomfort with poly. If, in the end, she accept polyamory, what is there...

Thank you for your insightful reply! I did mention polyamory to my wife, and I did tell her that I want to be with both she and R. That is definitely an idea she is uncomfortable with. I shall attempt to sit down with her and have a full discussion dedicated to the issue of polyamory. I most...

Hellow, all! I have never been in a polyamorous relationship. I have been reading and thinking a lot about it. I am posting here because I need advice. My story follows. I am married. Recently, I realized that I have romantic feelings for another girl (we'll call her R). I try to push them...