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LONG POST ALERT! EMPTY YOUR BLADDER AND REFILL YOUR COFFEE NOW! You've been warned! ;) Hi folks, you may remember me from such fun posts as this and this and this. Well, here we are a couple years later. What's new? I've tried, I've really tried. I wanted to be okay with Michelle and her...

... No. Not really. You know what I get from Bree? The feeling of actually being wanted. The feeling of being thought of as good company. Feeling important. I don't get that from the wife. I get comparisons ("my BF holds my hand! He listens to my problems! He does xyz, ad nauseum...")...

I'm sorry for my outburst. I've been... up and down. One minute I feel okay, the next I'm boiling over. I look at the life I have... had. And I want it back. I don't want to be a primary - I want to be an only. I tried. Good god, I tried. Anybody can read the posts I've made here and...

Somebody tell me that it's perfectly okay to say I don't WANT this. I don't. I WANT the feelings a mutually monogamous relationship give me. I DON'T want to share my wife's affection, love, whatever it is that you want call it. Nope. Not for me. I. DON'T. WANT. IT. I'm tired of being...

Why should Michelle get NRE and I don't? Compersion is fine, but it's not selfish of me to want something more for myself. Yes, I am still stuck on one mono woman because she's the only mono woman I've found that will even talk to me once they find out I'm married. Happily accept me after a...

Okay, I deserve that. :) But the thing is, I don't really dig on poly girls. That's why I claim to be mono, because that's what I want. So I really do feel like I'm trapped.

Just wanted to pop in and say I totally relate to this thread. My wife, Michelle, is poly. I'm... I'm not. I tried to have a thing with a girl (I've referred to her as Bree previously), but she couldn't deal with the married man thing, freaked out, and quit talking to me. Bree's talking to me...

@Ragabash - Man, I feel for you so much. I know exactly what you mean about feeling envious of your wife, but not her boyfriend. I wish I had words of wisdom to offer you, but the best I can do is say I relate.

Well, I'll throw my opinion in. Anybody who's been following my threads over in the "New to Poly" forum knows it's been a journey for me. Long story short, I don't think I'm wired for poly. I think I'm wired for mono. But I love seeing my wife be honest and open with herself. She's kept...

Sure, I'll throw mine in: geeky_romantic

Yep, that's the conclusion I'm drawing. Wish Michelle/Allison and I had been able to recognize that and discuss it with Bree/Natalie before it was too late. Sigh.

Hey folks! Remember me from here and here? I just wanted to pop in to say that Michelle and I have reached a pretty good place. I think Mono was right, I am a serial monogamist. I'm not sure how I'm going to adjust to this, since I love Michelle being her polyamorous self, but at least I can...

Yes, she is feeling insecure. At the same time, so am I. Trying to understand her needs as a poly person, and where I fit in as a mono person. And trying to understand if what I had with Bree was indicative that I'm in the wrong life, or if it was just a relief from depression. Or how much was...

Right now, at this moment? No. Bree is fraught with guilt right now, convinced that she unwittingly drove a wedge between me and Michelle, and she couldn't live with herself. As she put it to me, she doesn't want to be the prize for me breaking up my family. At some future time, after I...

There's definitely a question of chicken and the egg. Yeah, I totally saw myself in a monoamorous relationship with Bree, and she was constantly struggling with the fact that I wasn't able to be mono with her. And when it finally came to a head with her (nothing I did, she just couldn't deal...

You all might remember this thread where I wondered if my girlfriend Bree would ever be okay with this. It turned out she wasn't. She finally broke and said that she was at a place where what she wanted and what she needed had finally aligned, and that didn't include pining for me. And... my...

I'm not sure I buy that Bree's a cowgirl. Although I think I'll grant that I'm a serial monogamist. She places high value on my relationship with Michelle and my kids, and has pointed out several times that she admires Michelle a great deal. If she thought I'd leave Michelle (which I won't, but...

I really like your advice. I think I need to talk with Bree and see if she feels she's able to move forward like this. NRE is a powerful drug, and it's definitely clouding my judgment here.

LOL, no problem. Michelle is only the second girl I ever dated (the first was a certifiable psycho). I just kinda regret not dating more girls (not that I would trade my wife for that). So when she brought up the idea of opening our marriage, it appealed to me for that reason.

Oh wow, I did make that sound a little... ummm... rash, didn't I? Believe me, I couldn't agree more. o_O