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Hi I hadn't seen you in forever. How are you?

So hard when the other person in your life is not making decisions. I have that issue in my relationship with my husband. I told him it was a very bdsm dynamic. He then is in total control, by not making a decision. It forces me to make decisions in my life and he gets to blame me and be...

Numina, I have lived in limbo with my husband for 3 years. It isn't easy. The choice has been his. He decided to cross hard boundaries in our relationship. The hard boundaries are sex outside of our relationship without honesty and informing me, health at risk, pursuing his nephew's...

I feel a great deal of empathy for you. This is so sad, Chipmunk has made it clear that she is a cowgirl, and not only a cowgirl but wants to eliminate Wolf. I think detaching from him is the best solution to save your relationship. I worry most about Wolf. It seems that it is all about his...

Glad things are on a positive path. Thought about you lots.

Actually, I think your both pretty great. The measure of a relationship in my mind is not just the good but the strength of the relationship and commitment to working through the hard times. Every has hard times in a long term committed relationship. in today's society most people quit and...

I just need a two year relationship with a 27 year old, that was Jan. He called on his birthday to see him. He was in a bad space. I can say he provided a solid base for me when I found out about my husband's deceit. There is a 20 year age gap. We would still be to gather, except he has a...

Trust for me is watching the follow through on commitments. I have worked on conditions of reconciliation with my husband. Some are as simple as him attending a 12 step program. He lacks follow through so watching his actions matching his words are critical. Seems like it is a matter of time...

FOL I am so glad to see you on a healing path. In my circumstances things between husband and I have been hindered badly by complancey and deceit. In part by him delivering all the deceit over a year's time. I do realize the deceit was his attempt to spare me but it only caused more pain...

I gucess what I see isnt what everyone else sees. I am poly. I am doing a separation with my husband due to his family of origin issues and transferrance. What I see in my dynamic is that I to have some blame when he had problems with my relationship. He has repeatedly said he needs to be...

It was my understanding that you didn't cut things off with her. Until after an blew thing off both you and the children. Sorry for the misunderstanding. My opinion stand if she was still your partner she would have spoken to you to at least find out hoe the little one were.

So let's say Matt did a total 180, and he and Si made peace. Would she then go to your new home? Truly wanting to understand the dynamic, I understood that all of you agreed to move. Then Si came to you and you made new plans to stay in UK with her, without discussion with Matt. I am not...

Your career alone is insane. I can,t image doing that and being in this dynamic. I support your need for peace.

I am not surprised by what is happening. Matt is working on relationship and is going to parential alienation. Si is not doing any work on abandoning the kids and disappointing them. All it takes is a monkey and a sweet Jesus and you are moving forward without discussing it in counseling with...

I understand your need to keep your other babies. Why not make a blog here to vent in. That way you can have a way for you to be heard and watch where you are in relation to progress. I believe everyone supports you. Some times it is hard to read when you see people feeling but that is our or...

Emotional or mental abuse feeling like choice is taken from you is abuse. They are now manipulating you trying to turn you into a victim by stating.that your a tyrant and their the victims.this stress has already put you and the baby at physical risk that to me is physical abuse albeit...

I would text and say this is about your total lack of care and respect for me. Try to stay gone longer.

I dont think you can be a narcissist if you can feel compersion or be codependent. Jmop

btw his name isn't kyle. That is why I was confused. At first there was a really crazy situation with the family. Now there is no reason whatsoever for him to be living there. I think the reason he broke things off the last time was because he was due to move into our house. That was after...

I was thinking about this situation and realized another issue is he is going to be 30 and can't move away from his moms. She has a fiance and he can't let go. I think I am messed up because I get sucked in every freaking time. So I need to figure out how not to be.