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Might be semantic. An asexual person wanting children or under the influence of NRE may have a sex drive. A person on the outside cannot tell the difference. Bouncing off of what @Bobbi said, sex has no intrinsic intimacy value, it's an activity like playing cribbage. If you've read "Come as...

No, that is a misconception. 10 misconceptions about asexuality (youtube video)

Nothing to disagree about because what you describe isn't asexuality. Asexual people can enjoy sex and have a libido, for example. Sure can, and nope, that isn't asexuality. "Officially", asexuality is like heterosexuality is like homosexuality is like bisexuality is like pansexuality. It is...

My story and many like it is on AVEN. Develop into? No. That would be like suggesting a gay person developed into gay. Just as heterosexual is the opposite of homosexual, asexual is the opposite of bi/pan sexual. There are many reasons a person may not be interested in sex and many are...

You story is relatable. During our 38th year of marriage we learned about asexuality. Asexuality is not a pathology, trauma, or choice. If this is the case, then there is nothing wrong with her. Visit https://www.asexuality.org/en/forum/30-for-sexual-partners-friends-and-allies/ and see what...

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Missed that part, sorry to you both.

If she is asexual there is no cause, just as there is no cause for being homosexual. It is insulting and pointless to push sex on anyone that doesn't want sex. Married 41 years to an asexual.

Hi @jeofizz , Have you run into https://www.asexuality.org/en/forum/30-for-sexual-partners-friends-and-allies/ yet? You aren't alone.

Start there, anyway. Be upfront. Say, this is what you are doing. You may end up with exactly the same terms and that is okay. ETA: Check out R.A.D.A.R. in the Multiamory podcast.

Poly under duress

Ah, the four options listed in SPFA aren't suggestions to fix the relationship, they're the only paths forward for the sexual person seeking respite from the unfulfilling situation they discover they're in. Celibacy Some kind of compromise An open relationship Break up I don't suggest or...

I try, but that happens mostly in DMs when people really become interested in doing the work. It's but one of the four choices people can make. What opening means is for them to work out. It's actually a rarely-taken path but it is one. I often cite @Magdlyn's suggested read "Opening Up" as a...

Hi @SpMd, you are not alone. AVEN SPFA

BrokenArrow, just wanted to let you know that at least one lurker hears you. You are seen. Fix the bank account today. Consider locking joint credit accounts so they can no longer be used for new purchases.

From: The Difference Between Rules and Boundaries

Stop by AVEN - SPFA, if you haven't found it yet, to meet people in similar situations.

Multiamory has a podcast that might be worth sharing: The Triforce of Communication

Maybe... Well, at this moment you need to know. Work this out. If you find that you know you do not, then follow @Inaniel 's advice.