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Hi @moncher, I am the poly person in a marriage exactly as you describe. Have you found AVEN? Your questions and concerns are a topic of conversation often. I often contribute in this sub-forum. What you are doing is hard. You are dealing with two incompatibilities: asexual/sexual and...

You might want to check out this forum. Maybe not the same issue but similar enough for ideas. And for sure there are people there that understand where you are coming from.

How does your system work if the women are rich and the men are poor?

That's a great idea. You might consider making these talks regular and add some structure along the lines of what is described here: Multiamory RADAR

I can imagine it has. I'm sure people have tried. If you mean six people where everyone is in every possible relationship - all dyads, all triads, all quads, ... - I can't imagine a relationship structure this complex would be sustainable. But a kitchen table polycule of small star/V dyads -...

That is a good thing. Best leave that in the cool and highly unlikely fantasy space and be surprised if it happens. Stable long-term triads do happen but are really really rare. Have you read The Most Skipped Step When Opening a Relationship?

You just jumped into unicorn hunting territory. Maybe you didn't mean to but take a look at this: unicorns-r-us Might answer your first question too.

I meant the specific question of whether couples' privilege would be a bad thing in the relationship model you are proposing. Ah, I see @Evie has responded. I agree.

Would be for me. If I were reading that post as a profile in a dating app I would NOPE along. I would think it would limit your already limited dating pool. But it's a good question for the group.

You should look into it because your post is dripping with it.

Hello @Moonbaby , What you are describing isn't really poly but that's alright, you're in the ENM playpen. Concentrate on NSA casual encounters, swinging, kink clubs. Check out fetlife, feeld, kasidie, life on the swingset <- those are just things to get your search going and I think pretty...

Advice? I don't know, but my opinion: The first thing you do when considering opening a monogamous marriage to ENM is build security, strength, and resiliency in your marriage. *1 You need Jedi level communication. *2 You need individual autonomy. *3 And it turns out that these are good...

I'm just a nobody out in the interwebs. You said: which "synced" for you so I assume it's just the truth. How can you be better than truth? Why would you apologize for truth? I agree.

Ah, okay, for me, Partner Set A and Partner Set B are separate distinct things and are allowed to design their relationship as they see fit. So if an issue happens in Relationship A, the issue is managed in Relationship A. It is human and loving for Partner B to offer empathy and support to...

If I were considered a distraction [as defined in the OP] by a partner then I wouldn't want to be a partner any longer. To me, it blows up when the new format is explained to me.

What you are describing is called a one penis policy. Search on that and there will be a lot for you to consider. But basically, it's time for you to put some emotional work into your insecurity. Your wife is doing an excellent job of describing her wants and why.

I just want to reiterate what @AlwaysGrowing brought up. And I'm also not trying to be rude. What you are talking about isn't just a poly relationship, it's a poly triad. 4 total poly relationships. This is poly turned up to 11. You can read about the trials and tribulations of such here...

You are welcome. You are not alone. I know.

I'm not labeling or insinuating that asexuality is involved in your relationship but I do know that there is a group of people who deal with extremely incompatible sexualities in their relationships and how to work through the options available in this sub-forum: Sexual partners, friends, and...