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I discovered that yesterday when talking with Nick. He said the same thing. I need to accept that fact that this is what poly relationships entail: sex and intimacy. So in a way, I think that is the thing that needs to click into place for me. We had a long talk yesterday and I was sort of upset...

Okay, yes. Back up a second. No, he is not talking about acting in the moment to fuck any random person. He is talking about acting on the moment with the two women he is already involved with. He has told me that he intends to have sex with both of them "at some point." I have asked him to NOT...

See, that's what bothers me! His gf's #1 bf has asked him to NOT have sex with her for a while, and he told him (and in the same thread told ME) that he is "a grown man who can decide for himself when and if he has sex." To me, this is pure selfishness, when you are involved with more than one...

Yeah we know all about you cat rescue people....!!:D

I think the jealousy part is working itself out a little bit. He told me some of the more intimate details of his date the other day (which included oral sex) and I didn't really feel that gut-wrenching heartache I thought I would. I just sort of took it in stride. Meanwhile, we have come back...

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I don't see it as a contradiction. You can love someone and not be in an official relationship with them. What is contradictory, exactly?

What I mean by unconditional is that even though I screw up time and again, he doesn't hold it against me like every other boyfriend I've ever had. I am a very emotional person and I can't contain strong emotions very well. It's something I've been working on for a long time. Yes, the manner in...

Gosh, where do I start? First off, I haven't been on here in a while. Sorry about that! (I've just started my fall semester and I am having troubles with my eldest child.) I hope everyone has been doing well! I will try to read some recent posts and comment a bit. The last time I was on, I...

Wow, this situation sounds very similar to what my bf has dealt with in the last few years. I think I can talk from the perspective of your ladies because I am with a man who is poly, while I am not. My bf first discovered his poly nature about 6 years ago, and in that time he had many...

This has turned into a really great thread and I am appreciating all the feedback. Everyone has their valid points. I feel honestly that my friend seems like a one-woman kinda man. Even though I know he has still has feelings for me, I wouldn't want to put him in a position where he felt he had...

I don't know what's confusing you. We first started admitting to each other we were attracted about two years ago, and that was when we first started being physical. It only happened once, though. I'm not really sure why things never progressed... I think because I wanted to take my time and...

I have a friend whom I have known for six years, and over that time, we have had several run-ins where we made out, did a little petting, but nothing overtly sexual. Aside from that, we are great friends and really care about each other. He and I have both stated our attraction/interest, but for...

Hey, man - don't be a slave to your upbringing! Although I can't talk because I have allowed the way my mom 'was' to dictate the way I 'am' - but I strive to acknowledge those things every day, every time I do them and slowly change them. As far as I can tell, you have nothing to feel guilty...

Oh, that's wonderful! Yes, I feel a great weight has been lifted off of my soul. I feel very lucky to have this man in my life. I am so glad that my realization has helped you as well! Good luck to you!!

I have taken a step back the last couple days and really guided my decision-making with my feelings, rather than my thoughts. Someone said somewhere in this thread that using your gut feeling to determine what course to take is better than using one's head. I totally agree. So while I was...

I know. I have felt that he is very inconsistent and noncommittal. I have poured so much time and energy into understanding him and trying to change my attitude and be mindful and open to the situation. This has been really hard for me. And my heart hurts that this may have all been in vain...

Indeed. Don't think I haven't pondered these possibilities. In fact, I am torn up about them as we speak. I have brought up my worries to him, that it seems to me he is less than interested in having a committed relationship. I can't say verbatim what his responses were (the many times I...

Yes, I am coming to realize (the more I think about it) that relationships are a series of negotiations. My needs have definitely changed over the years. And when I think about specific needs, I realize I am pretty flexible. For example, I thought I would prefer someone to be interested in my...

I felt a bit frustrated by his reaction, as well. I was clear what I meant. He agreed that he would think about it and jot some things down.