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ah, I know this one as well. There are times when I have been on top of the world - feeling so good about myself I feel like I could fly, that everything is ok and even my problems I am happy about because they are being solved a little every day, that progress is happening. Realizing progress...

I've been working on possession myself; in past relationships I have hated feeling like a possession. I had a bf once who used to accuse me of sleeping with the neighbors when he would come home and I wasn't there. I also had another bf who used to freak out if I was gone at my friends house for...

I just had what I thought was a discovery about myself: in order to feel appreciated and secure in a relationship, I like to feel needed, not in a dependent sort of way, but in an appreciative sort of way; not in a controlling "You do this" way, but in a "You're needed in my life because you're...

Distraught - I might be able to help in some way, if nothing else than to tell you I have a similar quandary myself. I have other posts on here explaining more, but basically I have been momogamous but involved with a man for over a year who told me he was poly from the start, but TRIED to be...

I cringe as I read this because I know that in my jealousy I have behaved less than lovingly towards him at times. He cited me for it the other day. He used the word abusive. That was my deciding factor in taking a break from our relationship. I feel this guilt inside. Maybe my love for him is...

Something another person wrote on here made me want to post a little more about my situation. My bf and I are taking a break from each other for a few weeks. I find that getting back to myself and really digging deep into my feelings without his actions or presence aggravating things is helping...

I feel a similar way as you right now, that my reactions to my jealousy have served to drive my bf away. I fear that by me wanting to control our relationship and his relationships with other people, I cause these cycles of get jealous>freak out>argue with him and accuse him>feel guilty and...

haha - I see you checked me out. I too am checking you out. I find your situation an inspiration and I hope that I can learn a lot from your posts about being monogamous with a poly person. I am really struggling with it right now, myself. I know it can work!

Welcome! I am fairly new here as well, although my situation is a little different. I am monogamous with a man who is poly. It has been rough, but I'm hopeful. I just have a question: what made you and your wife decide to have an open relationship?

That's exactly what my bf says about me; he just wants to be part of my life, whatever role that puts him in be it friend, boyfriend, fwb. And I have no problems being weird about ex bf's...I try to stay friends with all my exes and I am really sad when some of them never want to see me again...

I am relieved to see that there are still some issues of jealousy among people who are poly, that it IS something that can be worked on - me NOT being poly, my bf is, I have had major struggles with feeling so hurt and jealous of his other ladies, I thought maybe there was just something wrong...

I go back and forth being ok with his other gf's and feeling totally ruined. Just last night I felt very angry and upset because he wanted to have a party at his house tuesday, but was going to invite his other gf and her roller derby team and myself. I told him flat out that I would not be...

I have to admit, my bf wants me to meet his other girlfriend and I just cannot. He has invited me several times to come to a bbq or other gathering and meet her and I will not do it. I know what she looks like and she is very pretty, she has a lot of friends and is really outgoing, she is...

Hello, all! I am new here and am not polyamorous (yet?) but my bf is. I am 30 yrs old, and he and I dated back when we were teenagers off and on, but I broke it off for good because of my feeling that he was a "ladies man". I was totally threatened and just ran off, never looking back. About a...