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You've certainly had your share of medical problems in your polycule lately! I hope this takes care of Mr Moonbeam heart arrhythmia. I had a friend who had the procedure about 10 years ago... it worked for her! Sorry about the covid scare :( we do the same here. If exposed and vaccinated, get...

I, personally don't disagree with your assessment of the gf. But, at the end of the day, it's more helpful to the OP for him to understand his part in what went wrong. We can't change other people but we can change how we communicate, whether we seek help for our own issues, and our own...

I agree with Ariakas, my ability to feel compersion does depend on how secure I feel in my relationship with that partner, and how well my wants are being met. Also, in my experience, in a healthy KTP set up, I can feel compersion for my partner and my meta pretty easily. It becomes trickier if...

I'm really sorry, Atlantis. It has to be so hard to have no closure with Mr Green's death... and then to lose Mr Prof so close together :( On the estate, my experience is that it can really depend on the attorney and CPAs, too. Two relatives passed away in recent years with similarly sized...

Oh no, I'm sorry, Evie :( I hope your kitty shows up soon.

I agree. I think we should stick to requiring appointments and ship all the excess to countries where cases are surging. I also think it's insanity that some states are doing lotteries for vaccinated residents, giving away scholarships and millions of $$. We are an entitled lot here in the US.

Happy Birthday!!

My suggestion is to see if there are any kink spaces or communities near you. If so, some of them offer introductory classes. It's not something you can just jump in feet first, imo. At least not if you want to do it safely and ethically.

I don't know what kink communities you're involved in, but from my limited experience in the kink community near me, that is not at all true.

Thank you for sharing your story, Evie. I am not adopted and can not imagine how that feels. I do have one poly partner (who is much more poly than me) who is adopted. Their story is not mine to share, but it is easy to see why they have had insecure attachments in the past, given their...

OPP can also be problematic if the rationale behind them is that the same sex relationships are less threatening because they aren't "real" relationships. Sadly, there really are people who believe this. I've encountered a few.

That's really awesome, Bluebird. So great that you were able to get them both into residential programs. I hope this works 🙏🙏🙏 And I hope you can get some rest and recharge time for you.

Ugh. I didn't think about that. I live in a red state and the meetings have apparently all reopened. I agree that a zoom meeting doesn't sound like a good option! Ok for a book club, not so much for a 12 step program where part of the process is finding a sponsor which requires some one on one...

I'm sorry, too, Bluebird :( She doesn't have to wait for the outpatient program to be set up to get started though. There are usually tons of AA and NA meetings available. In my area, there are literally is at least one meeting per hour within a 20 mile radius, up until 10 pm on week nights...

Lots of good points brought up about why you may feel relief that Pete is now dating. My partner, Blue, frequently ends up with monogamous or monogamish women. I do feel relief when he dates happily partnered women. My experience with Blue is that the monogamish women tend to cause lots of drama...

He's hell bent on seeing things from his very limited perspective, unwilling to adjust that perspective, and bitter because he was called out for his misogynistic views. Don't let him get to you, Evie.

I'm so sorry, Evie. For the record, I don't think you sound clingy either.

For me, it's both about who is/ has been excluded from the institution of marriage and the rights and legal obligations that marriage confers with no written, legal contract. How many people fully understand both the rights they're receiving and the obligations they're incurring when they get...

Count me in the jaded category, too. I spent years married. Won't happen again. I see the value of a legal commitment when raising children. Though that can be done at least as well, in my opinion, with just a legal contract. I do really enjoy reading how others define their marriages...

That's a hard place to be in, but better to end up there now than add years of pain and resentment. :/