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So much excitement and a little disconnect Thank you @AlsoMary! For some reason I wasn't expecting responses. However, it's always nice (and appreciated) to get a little more perspective. Thanks again. Today was a good day. I got the approval for my new (and my first) apartment! It's so...

So This Sucks Lately I've been having...struggles in my monogamy. Which is to simply say that I miss the intimacy of our relationship really, really badly. I don't necessarily want to sleep with anyone--it's not really about sex (although sex wouldn't be a bad thing). Right now I am just...

Today is The Man's birthday! I tried, boy did I try, so very, very hard to get his gift to him by today. It seems that the universe juwt isn't feeling it, though--it wont be there until Wednesday (goddamn FedEx!). It was a little sad that I didn't get to spend the day with them, and share...

Today The Man and I got to skype. With all of the upheaval of their recent move and the changes in time zones and such, this is the beginning of us finding our rhythm again. We text every day, and he always makes himself available if something needs immediate attention (rare, but it happens--and...

Polyamorous, swinging--really all--relationships rest on this odea of open, honest, and constant communication. I'll go ahead in and add in mutual respect as well, as it is incredibly difficult to have a healthy and functioning relationship where respect is not the foundation from which this...

Falling for The Moon Lady tells this story of how she found her way into poly and it goes like this: Once upon a time she fell in love with the moon. Which is to say, that she once fell head over heels, completely and totally in love with a woman so magnificent that she mistook her for a...

I've been meaning to post here for weeks now, which is about par for the course with me. So there's that. Anyway, I am in A Time of Great Transition right now. I began exploring poly with my current partner, The Man, for about 5 (almost 6!) months now, and it's fucking blowing my mind, guys. Our...

Ah. That feels like what I've been trying to say and haven't been able to find. Search inside yourself for what the trigger was. If it's that you need more assurance that you are important when a plan changes, communicate that in future, a phonecall is much more likely to give you good...

I think that you are exactly right, thank you. There is a fair amount of cognitive dissonance that I've been struggling around with over the last month, even if I'm only now recognizing it as such. I feel like there's so much to unpack there,which is my way of saying that I don't even know...

The Ask: I am looking for some perspective. I need to get out of my own head, and I’m hoping that some folks here can help me figure out/explain why I feel neglected by my primary. Context: I am the mono addition to an established couple. What was originally intended to by a purely physical...