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Mind-blowingly similar Q. I'm not a comedian (but I am funny) and I don't like mushrooms :-) However there are too many parellels with my own situation for me to not log onto this site and get an update of you/your situation. I would be a fool to ignore your thoughts, and those of the other...

Q Your emotions are laid out, and they are very similar to my own. You are not alone. Love is the best thing in the world, but also the worst when it goes wrong. If I was a gambling man, I'd put money on us both getting through our issues and living good positive futures, as we are both...

Thanks for this. The problem with me at the moment is that she ended 'us' 3 weeks ago, despite since saying repeatedly that she sees me as her life partner and just needs space at the moment. So I feel I have no right to ask her to refrain from being intimate with him now, and no doubt she...

thanks for the encouragement Q & K. And Q - good news on your progress and the possibilities that abound :-) Sorry to vent last night. I had walked out of the hotel after a flashpoint. The previous 2 nights we had re-connected in such a good way, the sex was unbelievable, and I genuinely felt...

I fucked up! I went to cambridge, fucked all night 1st night. 2nd night i started with the Qs and ultimatums. We are on the edge right now, TBC..

Yes, I was an overthinker anyway, before this situation arose. Now, christ almighty I'm beavering away like the processor on my laptop. I've had a better day today But I'm faced with a dilema. J has asked me to go away with her for the weekend. She'll be working in cambridge marking exam...

Thanks again for your consistent outpourings - they are so relevant to what I'm going through right now and it's almost as if it is myself talking at times - especially the bit about your success rate with women ;-) I'm accepting the new reality more each day, but the backward steps are still...

I'm sorry to hear that. Hopefully it's just a point you both needed to get to, and now she has the time she needs to compute and analyse, she will realise that you were trying to deal with the new reality, but that you had some backward steps as well as forward ones. After all you were...

Unbelievably similar Hi Questioning, I joined this site around a month ago (see my thread from around a month ago ' GF of 4 years makes an announcement'). Your experiences / emotions are so similar to the ones I'm going through right now. Our situation began when J went behind my back around...

update To all of those who commented previously, thanks. Reading it again now, 1 month down the line is therapeutic. By way of an update, things have become worse. Things became bad at home, as she had another secret rendevouz with this guy ,and as she had become so secretive again my...

Thanks for your reply Snowdancer.. I think.. "If your GF is truly Poly, you will not make her happy by forcing her to be in a monogamous relationship" To that I would say, if my girlfriend is truly Poly why did she wait until 4 years into a relationship to raise the issue. A bit misleading...

Just to add, Idealist - I'm not 'hanging on' to anything - just being true to myself which is what I feel we all have a right to do, whether mono, poly, or whatever. Being open minded works both ways. I appreciate that I didn't post on a 'Mono' site so should expect a slightly biased viewpoint...

Thanks for the words people. NYCindie - thanks for the reading tips. I've had a look at a summary of the book you mention and already find relevance, I think you are correct in that the language of individual's love can differ greatly. I'm going to look into this in more detail, as there are...

there's no doubt her sex drive has been higher than mine over the last year / 2 years. I've not dealt with the stress of my business very well and as a result my self confidence has taken a hit (not very sexy for my gf I imagine) and my libido took a nose dive, so to speak. Maybe I'm reaching...

thanks again for taking time to add your comments. We both agree that counselling is the answer. To be honest, I found it therapeutic just churning out my original post earlier... One point I find possibly pertinent, is that when I asked her if the poly side of her has been present throughout...

thanks for this. Yes, she is looking for a counsellor to address this, and other issues she says has brought her to this point. We have both taken responsibility for the fact that our relationship soured to the point where one of us cheated on the other. She has repeatedly said since, that it is...

thanks for your reply. I have thought long and hard about this, really. And this is one of the things I considered. However I just wouldn't be comfortable in this situation, so cannot honestly see it as an option for me. It would be compromising myself in order to accommodate her, and just as I...

Hi, I'm a 39 year old straight guy, living with my gf of 4 years. She's bi (which she told me about early on in the relationship) which has never really been an issue. She says it's a 60-40 thing, and that she wouldn't ever see herself in a long term relationship with a woman. We talked about...