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So I joined this forum around 7 years ago, entirely new to poly, and have been on quite a journey since then. Originally I was very reluctant about poly, and unsure, but over time grew to enjoy it. When my first poly relationship(s) ended, I went back to monogamy but it didn't feel right. I...

What if your metamour was someone that you were good friends with before your partner started dating them?

In some situations that is almost impossible. For example, with my ex, she was (and still is) very much entwined with my friendship group. My boyfriend and I are good friends with the same people. Therefore, whether he wanted to or not he would be spending a lot of time with her (unless he just...

My (ex)girlfriend broke up with me a few months ago, and though it didn't end badly as such, for reasons I still don't entirely understand, I bore many negative feelings towards her for a while. My boyfriend tried to do the typical supportive thing, tried to help when I was sad and even tried...

This is one of my recent ones: 'hey you seem pretty cool and I can fly so yeah' You seem cool, I can defy gravity, therefore perfect match! Apparently. And I also got: 'hey there! WOAH i should have bought my burn cream! you are hot stuff!' I have never heard of a chat up line, such as...

Thanks for all the replies :) Marcus: It isn't a comparison thing. I've loved people in different ways. I'm not expecting them to all be the same - the mention of my Ex was simply anecdotal. What Happened: I don't feel that I need to fall in love with other people. And that's the thing, it's...

Hi! I've seen a lot of people on this forum who find love quite frequently/easily. What about those of you who have a bit more trouble falling in love? Those who don't manage it easily/often? I'm one of those people. I can really like someone, be really attracted to them, get on with them in...

Thanks NY! That means a lot :)

Bah, I didn't mean for this to end up spiraling into a big debate and taking over this thread - apologies to the OP. I know my needs do suggest insecurity, but people are always saying on here that you should communicate with your partners. I did that, I told him that I would be more...

This. This is what I really wanted to say when I first posted on this thread but didn't really have the words for. Sometimes what's right for one person isn't for someone else and vice versa. So to make everything equal across all boards with the same standards/rules/guidelines applying to...

Actually, London, when my relationship with H first started, it was as an open relationship that I consented to rather than a poly one, but over time and with discussion we have both worked through things and expanded upon that. And, in the end, it was H's decision on how often to see her, I...

It was more that a metamour accused me of double standards. At the time: Me and H: dating and living together (2 years) Me and P (my girlfriend at the time): dating (6months) H and B (my metamour): Two or three dates H was showing interest and wanted to have a relationship with B. I was happy...

I disagree with this. What I think leads to a lot of this prejudice is that what are generally known as 'poly principles' are things that tend to make healthy relationships. You know: communicate, work though your emotions, try to be more objective and not let your own insecurities get in the...

I suppose the reason I said that it annoys me that they can be put down is personal. I was in a situation once where I needed just a couple weeks to process before the next step in my partners other relationship.....it was taken very badly. I was called selfish - amongst other things and it was...

I agree with Galagirl, in that you need to discuss these things to see if your relationship ideals are compatible. Although, telling someone that they can't have romantic feelings is a difficult one, as that's not something they can control. If there were to put it as 'I'd prefer for you not...

Thanks very much for the replies, it does help knowing other people have gone through the same thing. For people that have been on the depo, how long after stopping it did you notice a difference? I was due for my next one two weeks ago, but I've been told that they actually get you to top up...

Inyourendo: Thanks, I'll do a bit of research and see if any of those things and general vitamins can help me. Magdyln: Yeah, I'm on the depo provera and have been for over 2 years now. It was fine for the first year and a bit but the last year I've noticed that my sex drive has dramatically...

I've seen a few posts on here in the past where people have had problems with their sex drive or, more specifically, their lack there of. Does anyone have any tips on what to do if you find your sex drive seriously waning? For the last 12 months mine has been steadily falling to the point...

This is an article rather than an official study but makes some good points: http://www.netdoctor.co.uk/menshealth/feature/helpwithorgasms.htm Especially in this paragraph: So, try not to give the impression to your female partner that she ‘ought’ to be able to climax through intercourse...

I'm a 5'3", 21-year-old woman weighing roughly 140lbs. I'm a size 12 (UK) and range between 34D and 36C depending on what brand I'm buying. I'm reasonably curvy with blue eyes and shoulder length hair with a whole bunch of colours in it, but I suppose it's kind of brown, maybe? I asked a group...